Haunted by Exes
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|Fri, 03-26-2010 - 1:19pm|
I have been dating someone for approx 3 months.
A couple of weeks ago we were sitting down together having some wine and conversation. Then he brought up the fact that an ex form last year contacted him via email and asked how he was doing and how his girlfriend was doing (meaning me). I asked if he replied to her, he said no. I asked how she knew he had a girlfriend, he said I don't know. Okay, I got a little heated, I admit. His response when I asked what his motivation for telling me that was, " I like it when people are jealous..." (meaning, he liked that his ex was jealous that he was seeing someone).
Then this past week, he told me that another ex called him this week. This particular ex he was engaged to and was with for 7 years. She left him for another man and now has a child by this man. She also left him with some lovely debt, etc. etc. She called him this past week because the man she left hy boyfriend for has now left her...so she turned to him because she didn't have anyone to turn to.
I get that part. But it still pissed me off. I probably over reacted, but it's like, man this is the second girlfriend he's told me about that has contacted him.
I'm not sure how to handle this. I'm 28 and he is 35. It has only been three months but we are at the point where we are saying I love you to each other.
Anyone have any experience with this?
Any insight would be helpful.