He Gave Me His Ex's Ring

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He Gave Me His Ex's Ring
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Tue, 03-16-2010 - 11:57am

My new boyfriend was going through somethings and happened to stumble upon a box of his ex-girlfiend's (of 7 years) jewelry that he purchased for her while they were together.


He pulled out a ring and wanted to know out of curiosity if it would fit me...and it did.

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Registered: 06-29-2007
Tue, 03-16-2010 - 12:09pm
Yuck! I wouldn't want to be given an ex's jewelry. I don't think he meant anything by it, but I know I would not be comfortable. You can give it back or stick it in a box and never take it out. Or, pawn it.
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Registered: 05-04-2007
Tue, 03-16-2010 - 12:23pm

Personally, if it were my style, if it fit, if I liked it ... I'd keep wearing it


I don't need everything to be new, "new to me" is good enough


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Registered: 09-02-2006
Tue, 03-16-2010 - 12:33pm

It just doesn't feel like mine.

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Registered: 12-22-2007
Tue, 03-16-2010 - 3:56pm

>>It's not as bad as wering his ex's panties or anything,<<

OMG, this line just cracked me up. And it reminds me of a post from long ago about whether or not you should get new sex toys for a new partner.

Anyway, I think your decision is right. Wear it if you want or give it back if it feels too weird.

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Registered: 10-18-2001
Tue, 03-16-2010 - 4:22pm

So what was the decision about the sex toys? LOL!

For the OP, it does seem a bit weird. I think that he could probably understand it though and I wonder if the "curiosity about the fit with no initial offer for you to have it" was his way of testing the waters and a plan of his to see if you wanted and would take the ring?

From a practical boy point of view, its not much use to him sitting around so why not recycle it/gift it? I'm sure that he was probably thinking that it was a nice ring that someone he likes should have, rather than any great sentimentality about it. He's more than likely processed the breakup of the old relationship, the role the ring had in it, and has moved on.

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Registered: 01-02-2010
Tue, 03-16-2010 - 7:33pm

Not really the point I guess but I wondered why he had a box of his ex-g's jewelry.


I would not like it because it would serve as a reminder of when he was in love with somebody else. However, if I REALLY liked the ring then

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Tue, 03-16-2010 - 8:17pm

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Registered: 09-02-2006
Tue, 03-16-2010 - 10:20pm

Hey Guys,


Thanks for the input..got it got some responses..lol...


As far as him actually having the box in the first pace, he said she stoped wearing the jewelry he bought her while they were together...shortly after she left him for another man.

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Registered: 01-02-2010
Wed, 03-17-2010 - 4:03am

Oh everyone is too picky. Take all the used jewelry and unders too. After all, isn't it the same old d***? Hahahahahaa! Okay sorry. Really. Sorry. Really.




Edited 3/17/2010 4:15 am ET by newyearpub
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Registered: 12-24-2009
Wed, 03-17-2010 - 1:09pm

Well I guess you decided to wear the "used" ring....just dont lose it....he will want to give it to his next girlfriend




Edited 3/17/2010 1:13 pm ET by brfl2009

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