Is he 'just not that into me'?
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|Sun, 08-05-2012 - 7:48pm|
Here I am again, wondering if a guy I'm interested in is interested in me...SMH!
First, I should say that this is a man I work with. I know, I know that's not the best situation, but I can't help but find him fascinating.
I'm fairly new at my job, having been there for almost three months. I noticed this guy on my second day, because he's in IT, and they came in during Orientation and talked about what they do. I can't explain it, but I was instantly drawn to him. He's attractive, but not drop dead gorgeous. After that day, I didn't have any interaction with him for several weeks, because I was training with different people. Once my orientation was done, I started to run into him more. And, I had to take my laptop to IT. While there (this is about one month after I started), I made small talk with him, asking him about himself. He responded, and reciprocated. In the days following, I started seeing him more (the IT department is on the opposite side of the building from where my cube is). He'd stop by my cube and make small talk. He'd remember things we discussed days before. But, he was never flirtatious, just friendly...attentive. This went on for about three weeks. Then, something changed about two weeks ago.
The walks by my cube stopped. He would still speak when we saw each other in passing, but he stopped conversing. Now, I hardly ever see him. Sure, he is the Supervisor in IT, so I'm sure he's busy. But, the change is very obvious to me. The week before last, he was actually kind of cold towards me. I asked him what was up, and he said it was nothing to do with me.
He has since resumed his friendly self, but still doesn't really stop to talk to me like he used to. This is a long shot, but my co-worker who knows of my crush thinks it has something to do with another guy who flirts with me - another guy in IT. She asked me if the guy I like has ever seen us together, and told her yes. I don't think that's it because I don't flirt with that guy - he's married!
To add more confusion, last week, the guy I like emailed me to tell me he would be on call during the weekend, and to call him if I needed any help (I work from home some weekends). He gave me his cell. I'm confused, but am leaning towards "he's just not that into me." Hasn't asked me out...I've done everything short of asking him out - it is clear that I am interested in him.
Is it time for me to just move on?