He lied about his real name :\

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Registered: 12-25-2007
He lied about his real name :\
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Sat, 03-03-2012 - 6:56pm

Hi all. Not sure how to proceed from here and would like some advice. A guy lied to me about his real first name. :\

Long story short, I met a man who initially was a friends with benefits situation (still is at this moment). I know and understand the pitfalls of it and practice safe sex. He and I both came out of failed engagements (including some miserable dating attempts since then for myself)

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Registered: 12-22-2007
Sat, 03-03-2012 - 11:12pm

Lostinreality, my daughter's music teacher has a different first

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Sun, 03-04-2012 - 12:22am

I think the only way you can find out is if you ask him & then you will have to admit that you were looking for him on FB--maybe instead of saying you found him, you could say you were looking for him on FB and couldn't find him & then see what he says.

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Registered: 12-25-2007
Sun, 03-04-2012 - 7:34am

Thanks for both of your responses.. You are both absolutely correct. I know there are a lot of people who do use their middle names, fake names, etc on FB and on the internet for privacy reasons. But, in my original message I left out the detail of my search results because the message was already getting too lengthy. Sadly, his FB page is his real name

I know this because after hitting a road block in my search results and having a gut feeling something wasn't right with the name (after a couple of incidents of me saying his name, I felt him tense up or become uncomfortable), I tried a reverse phone search and found a name attached to it. It was the last name he gave me but not the first. After a couple of more searches (pipl and spokeo), it also gave me his middle name. It wasn't even close to the name I knew him by.

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Registered: 12-22-2007
Sun, 03-04-2012 - 3:36pm

My daughter's teacher's real name is his FB name and he goes by another name with all his friends.

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Registered: 12-25-2007
Sun, 03-04-2012 - 4:13pm
When I have proof via a picture that it isn't *his* naming preference.... kind of hard not to think otherwise, right? It isn't an assumption. When you add 1+1, it's hard not to get 2.

Like I said before, I didn't elaborate on the search results because it was too much typing but when my search results took me to twitter, I found a picture of of a whiteboard he had in his apartment where it was apparently custom for his friends to sign. He took pictures of it. A lot of those friends addressed him on that white board by the name he goes by (his FB name), not the name he gave me. They said "Hey (his name), We love you (his name). It's apparent that his FB and twitter name IS his naming preference, not the one he gave me which isn't even close or near to his name.

Judging by that proof, I'd say his friends have it right and it is made up only for me.
It isn't being negative....just fact.
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Registered: 12-22-2007
Sun, 03-04-2012 - 4:47pm

Hon, if you want accurate feedback, you have to give all the information.

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Tue, 03-06-2012 - 4:09pm

I would ask him. My friends and I used to give fake names in bars, it really confusing and hard to straighten out any time we ended up really liking the guy. Maybe he made it up and now doesn;t know how to correct it. What have you got to lose?