Is he playing me?

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Registered: 02-04-2009
Is he playing me?
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Sat, 03-24-2012 - 1:41am

Hello. I think I am beng played but I hope that I am not and I need the male perspective here.. My boyfriend and I have been together 4.5 years. We lived together for two years and he moved out last March because he could not find a job and it was causing issues in our relationship. He found a job in another state 2.5 hours away. Unfortunately, he lost the job in September and has been unable to find another job. Financially, I have been helping him out but, I stopped because it began to dawn on me that what I was doing was stupid. He could come back here and find a job but he wants to prove to himself that he can tough it out on his own. I doon't see how he thinks he's on

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sat, 03-24-2012 - 10:12am

It's interesting to read the different perspective since you wrote about this guy a little differently on another board.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-04-2009
Sat, 03-24-2012 - 11:17am

Thanks for the response. The perspective here is a little different because I had just spoke

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sat, 03-24-2012 - 5:59pm
I wonder if you still consider him a boyfriend?
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Registered: 02-04-2009
Sun, 03-25-2012 - 2:26pm

No, he is no longer my boyfriend. I officially ended things yesterday. And it was even more eye-opening. All he kept saying was how wrong it is for me to leave knowing his situation and that I was kicking him while he was down. He did not see my side at all. So there's no use in trying to work things out and holding on anymore.

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Registered: 04-04-2012
Wed, 04-04-2012 - 8:17am
It's one thing him being disrespectful to you but totally inhealthy for you to disrespect yourself by continuing to be someone's backup! Cut the ties and be kind to yourself ... leave the guilt for those that are guilty of something :O)