He Pulls Away: how can I feel better about his needs without ignoring my own?

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Registered: 01-06-2011
He Pulls Away: how can I feel better about his needs without ignoring my own?
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Mon, 07-11-2011 - 11:53pm

Here's the scenario:

We'll have an awesome evening together-- mind-blowing in all ways. Romantic, intimate, sensual, etc. It will be perfect and he's the most loving man ever. Then, often times I won't really hear from him for a few days. (We only see each other once or rarely twice a week)

I once asked him about it and said he's so in love with me, he's afraid he'll just start turning to jelly if he keeps telling me how he feels in the days afterward.

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Registered: 12-22-2007

Given that you've already spoken to him about it - and nothing has changed - you really have no choice but to accept it.

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Registered: 06-08-2011

My boyfriend of seven months stopped telling me he loved me at six months.

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Registered: 05-18-2009

"Consider it this way.....he gave you a gift.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
He may decide to have a more balanced life where he wants to focus on the things he did before you two met.

I don't understand how do you *need* contact? especially if you see each at least once a week?

You can guess until the cows come home but until you understand the kind of contact you want (e.g. touch base, share the day type of contact or intense I Love Yous exchanged) and talking with him about it then you won't know.

Mark