HELP!

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Registered: 05-11-2009
HELP!
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Tue, 08-10-2010 - 3:13pm

Hello!


I need some advice.....again!!


I have been friends with this guy for about 8 years, about a month and a half ago at his birthday party, the two of us finally had sex, it was amazing and I was delighted because I had always had a soft spot for him. After being in a dead end relationship that ended back in November, being with this guy was such a breath of fresh air.


After the party we didn't exchange phone numbers or anything so I just presumed he wasn't that keen on me. But on Friday, whilst on Facebook, he popped up on chat and asked if I was going out at the weekend, I was delighted to be talking to him! I said yes and he then asked if I was free that night did I want to meet up with him. I of course said yes! It was quite random and out of the blue so I didn't know what to expect.


I met him in town and we went for a drive, the two of us still had the great chemistry we had all those years ago, he always had a way of making me smile, laugh and be instantly happy. We talked for hours and when I kissed him the chemistry was undeniable and I just felt like I should have been kissing him all my life because they were so good!! We ended up having sex that night and although it was simply AMAZING once again I'm now afraid that he'll think I'm easy. We didn't exchange numbers and said we'd 'talk soon' at the end of the evening......I don't want to seem needy so I haven't contacted him via Facebook/email esc and don't want to be obsessing about something silly.....but he's no ordinary guy....he's a guy who I've always liked, he was out of my life for afew years and since I've become single again he's been in my life in one way or another.


Any advice on the situation would be great and I hope I don't come across as silly!!


:) xx

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In reply to: alip2009
Tue, 08-10-2010 - 3:37pm
Personally, if you want more than just a FWB arrangement (which is what it sounds like to me), you need to let him know that. Next time he calls, if he does, you need to be up-front about it.



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Registered: 04-10-2010
In reply to: alip2009
Tue, 08-10-2010 - 5:23pm

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Registered: 05-11-2009
In reply to: alip2009
Tue, 08-10-2010 - 6:11pm
Yeah I totally agree, unfortunately. I knew all of this anyway. Just needed some other opinions on it. So thank you :) xx
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Registered: 01-25-2010
In reply to: alip2009
Thu, 08-12-2010 - 2:03pm
First i advise looking at your life and your ambitions as to wealth building,power,and lifestyle. Sexually he is great but how will he fit into the new world that is already here? I am talking about his ambitions and the sacrifices you will have to make and the sacrifices he would have to make.
Many relationships crash and burn do to very different outlooks on career,money,sex,and the projected supposed to be's. What if His ambitions are political? Or yours? The world we grew up in as a child id dead and the new world of wealth or not is upon us. Those pressures are for most new and without guidelines.
Keep him in the woodpile until all of these are sorted out. Do not include you"friends" but look to learn everything in detail befor wasting any time on building a rel;relationship.

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