He's afraid of me trusting him?

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Registered: 02-08-2011
He's afraid of me trusting him?
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Mon, 09-03-2012 - 7:27pm

I have a history with this guy where while we may not be dating we are very close, do everything together including trips. A couple of weekends ago we went out and were all over each other holding hands, cuddling and putting our arms around each other but didn't make out of anything which I thought was weird.

This weekend we went out again and it wasn't the same (we have seen each other a few times since the initial saturday). We were having fun at a party we were at, but decided to head out. I had no idea how to get back to our neighbourhood and was tired and really just wanted to cab home... He started getting mad telling me that all I ever do is throw money at problems to make them go away, I agree to take the subway home.

We get on the subway and he starts telling me that he's annoyed I can't think ahead and what would happen had he left me there... I told him that thought never crossed my mind because I didn't think he would do something like that to which he told me that it "makes him uncomfortable when people put trust in him" which I think is weird consierding we are such close friends, why wouldn't you trust your friend? I also really respect his opinions and know he isn't an idiot so for simple things like how to get home I just let him figure it out. He's also someone who always likes to be right so sometimes with him I feel like I need to pick my battles which I told him... Then he proceeded to tell me that he didn't watnt to go around thinking that he was forcing me into doing things I didn't want to do... which I also found weird but wondered if maybe it had something to do with the fact that he will never initiates anything with me. There have been many times in our friendship where things could have gone one way and just don't and I have always sort of thought that he is always waiting for me to just go for it. But I really think that the guy needs to make the first move.

 

I'm upset at how our weekend ended, The next morning he said he was sorry and I said it was okay, knowing that it really wasn't. I'm really upset and I feel like there are untied ends there but should I just leave it or should I suggest we talk more about it. I am just really perplexed by his comments.

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Registered: 02-08-2011
Re: He's afraid of me trusting him?
Sun, 09-09-2012 - 10:10am

well I have seen him since then and didn't bring it up because I didn't think it was appropriate timing to discuss. It still bothers me a lot especially since I feel like he thinks everything is fine.