hes in/out, up/down, hot/cold....

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Registered: 12-18-2007
hes in/out, up/down, hot/cold....
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Sat, 06-26-2010 - 3:08am

Previously posted, about a guy I was seeing who was saying one thing/doing another.

This is the 2nd go around, after being blown off for a solid month, over such a very stupid misunderstanding.

Is it possible that the in and out behaviour is a possible personality disorder?

He claims he is busy, or doesn't want to talk. And then doesn't talk to me for a month. Then we start talking again, and its all back to normal.

I'm pretty sure there isn't anyone else. As a woman, I would never treat my friends as such, so I almost wonder if he isn't manic depressive or something?

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Registered: 10-18-2001
Sat, 06-26-2010 - 3:44am
What do you want us to say?


Yeah, sure, it could be a personality disorder.



So there. I said it. Now; what are you going to do about it? :-)
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Registered: 12-18-2007
Sat, 06-26-2010 - 6:24am

LOL.

Now that makes it all better. LOL.

Seriously, I guess just wanted to vent. Just don't get how someone can just shut themselves off from everyone and everybody for a month or 3 months at a time, and then just engage again, as if nothing happened. Suppose that would be my fault for allowing it. :(

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Registered: 03-08-2004
Sat, 06-26-2010 - 9:09am

It doesn't matter why he does what he does, you're FWB, he doesn't owe you

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Registered: 04-10-2010
Sat, 06-26-2010 - 8:34pm

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Registered: 12-18-2007
Mon, 06-28-2010 - 4:03pm

Yes, I would like to have more. However content with FWBs, however that does stand for FRIENDS w benefits.

No, I believe I can safely say he doesn't have anyone else. I am not looking to diagnose him with a mental illness, I do know he is passive aggressive, and possibly bi polar though.

You all are right though. I need to set the rules here, instead of just playing along.

Either hes in or hes out. Thats it. Thanks for your explanations of it. I don't really try to look for anything more than whats there. I just tend to over analyze at times. I have even been in FWB relationships before, and its not my first rodeo. Its just that the way he acts is something new to me, that I never encountered before, and it is perplexing at best.

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Registered: 04-10-2010
Mon, 06-28-2010 - 5:32pm

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