Honest Opinions Please

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Registered: 07-17-2003
Honest Opinions Please
Fri, 07-30-2010 - 11:45am

I am looking for honest feedback on this issue.

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Registered: 05-18-2009
Fri, 07-30-2010 - 12:15pm
My parents have almost completely opposite political beliefs and they are celebrating 30 years of marriage (37 years together) this month. But they both have similar values and they work together in spite of politics. How long have you been dating your boyfriend? I would feel very concerned being with someone who honestly believed it was ok to steal (which is what you're doing when you buy something you have no intention of paying for). That attitude demonstrates a lack of integrity, which I think is the most important part of a person's character. Are there any other indications that your boyfriend may lack integrity?
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Registered: 04-16-2008
Fri, 07-30-2010 - 12:49pm
I too would wonder about his character. To me buying a lot of expensive things that you can't afford and then filing for bankruptcy is irresponsible, not to mention ruins your credit and chances to buy a home or car at any reasonable interest rate for the next 7 years. I think of it like shoplifting. Everybody else eventually pays for that with higher prices. I think bankruptcy should only be used as a last resort for people that really need it, such as those that thru no fault of their own lose a good job (that they may have had for many years) and are about to lose there home and possessions and have no other choice. NOT for people that buy beyond their means and know they are getting in over their heads. I would also wonder if he sees nothing wrong with this what does it say about his morals and values concerning other things in his life.
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Registered: 04-10-2010
Fri, 07-30-2010 - 4:06pm

First of all, I don't know how he could have actually done this, even twenty-five years ago. If you buy a car and a motorcycle, those items are collateral for that loan. If you don't pay, they repossess them. In some cases you are allowed to keep a car, but you keep making the payments on that car, you do not get



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Registered: 02-14-2007
Fri, 07-30-2010 - 7:17pm

First off - don't marry him - political views - that wouldn't bother me.

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Registered: 07-17-2003
Fri, 07-30-2010 - 8:22pm

Thanks everyone for your thoughts.

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Sun, 08-01-2010 - 2:59pm
So that was 25 years ago. Who knew the real story I bet he does not either. But you made a mole hill into a mountain. There is probably a lot more to the story.
It was a done deal and what about applying the brain before the mouth? If something happened to his income then returning would not pay off the debt as all of those things lose value when they are out of the store or off the lot.
Note when you push someone into a corner do not be surprised when they fight back!
He followed the law so that is the end. Picking a fight over ancient history is unwise.

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Registered: 06-22-2006
Wed, 08-04-2010 - 4:54pm

I'm with the idea that this isn't so much a political issue as it is about basic values mismatch.

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Registered: 09-14-2007
Fri, 08-06-2010 - 3:17pm
IMO this is not about politics, but character.