How can I help his security issues??
Find a Conversation
How can I help his security issues??
| Tue, 02-09-2010 - 9:45am |
I have been with my boyfriend for 6 months and we've been living together for about 1 month.
Latest from the board
- He wants to "take a step back" 18
- Why my flirt won't ask me out 3
- how do I get him to propose faster? My clock is ticking! 1
- Why doesn't he recognize my name 3
- Wow once again! 3
- Is this unusual? 6
- He's got me so confused! 4
- Strange Comments 3
- seems like a boyfriend, but he keeps calling me his friend... 8
- I am dating a guy that plays mind games 2
Memeber Support
Visit our Member Support area or browse the iVillage Help forum
| Q: | Where can I change my password? |
| A: | Log in, go to Edit My Preferences, and click the Account tab. Make and save your changes. |
Pages
There's nothing you can say or do to make him see it, he has to see it for himself.
Frankly how well can you know someone after dating only 6 months. Big mistake moving in together. Now you see you have an insecure, needy, immature man. Not a good choice! When people live together they still act like two people. You are not commited to being one, a TEAM. If you were, he would not be so insecure and you would fell the need to talk to other men even though you know it makes him upset. You both only look out for yourselves and are not commited to the happiness of your mate. Seems to me that you are too immature. You seem overly concerned with looks.
So in short you cannot change him. You are totally powerless in this regard. Only he can change himself. He can be the best looking man on the planet but there is nothing sexy about someone who is jealous, needy and insecure
I think you're wrong.
The question is, is HE willing to work on his self-esteem issues?
Ok I'll use "your Logic". If you love him sooo much why would you continue to do something that causes him discomfort and heart ache. Talking to an old boyfriend? Is that LOVING? You see nothing wrong with that but you want to help him?
He loves you so much but cannot stand to see you talk to another man. Is that loving?
On both counts, NO. They are immature, needy, jealous and self absorbed. I've been in love with my wife the day I saw her. We have been married 20 years. Would I do anything to make her insecure like talk to another woman and SEE that it bothered her and still did it KNOWING that it bothered her? Not if you put a gun to my head. Are we ever jealous or insecure? No BECAUSE WE TRUST EACH OTHER? You want to marry someone who is jealous and insecure Go ahead. If he wants to marry someone who does things knowing it bothers him and makes him jealous but is too blind to see. He should go ahead.
If you REALLY loved him you would say you would not speak to the old boyfreind ever again. But since you see nothing wrong do what you want
Hi z0ney...I was the insecure one in my relationship....I was always needing reassurance.
Try this.
Try to see things from his point of view.
Pages