How can I know how he feels about me...

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Registered: 09-01-2003
How can I know how he feels about me...
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Mon, 09-01-2003 - 1:58am
I have an odd problem, I am in love with a man that I have known for 2 years. He was my professor and now he is a good friend. He is 55 to my 49, so age is not the issue here. He has been widowed for the past 10 years and has just recently stopped wearing his wedding ring. When we are together, in his office, classroom or where ever he is very attentive to me. I think he has feelings for me...but there is that margin of doubt there. How could I find out without coming right out and asking him? Teaching is his part-time job, he is a full-time pastor.
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Mon, 09-01-2003 - 10:27am
If he's interested in you romantically, he'll ask you out. All you need to do is show you'd be receptive to an invitation. The only caveat to that would be if at some point during your friendship you indicated to him that you would NOT be interested in a romantic relationship with him; if that's the case, you need to revisit that with him. But if that's not the case, he'll ask you out if he's interested in you that way.

Sheri

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Wed, 09-03-2003 - 10:01pm
The problem is not whether or not I ever let him know that I wanted us to be friends only, it is more like I was giving him some space for a while. The subject of friends only has never come up. He wore his wedding ring up until March of this year. His wife died in 1993. Recently he refers to her as the "woman who was my wife", before he would say "my wife". I am just trying to not read too much into his reactions to me, like when I walk in or when he looks me directly in the eyes during a conversation. His eyes sparkle....and I well, I blush. I need to learn some subtle ways to let him in on the secret. I guess I am trying not to embarras either one of us...maybe I am trying too hard not too cause him discomfort and not trying hard enough to let him know how I really feel.
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Tue, 09-09-2003 - 9:37am
I would think that if a man is truly interested and available he will ask you out. No need to analyze.