How important to you is wearing a
I can't give you an indepth answer from a male POV, but I can give you observations of when I met my hubby. It was a supposed one night stand and I handed him a condom. While I'm fairly sure he would have gone 'bareback' if I was OK with it, he was very happy to accommodate my wishes.
Hubby was pleased to ditch the condoms when we got serious and had been STD tested. I think it may have worn a little thin (pun not intended) if they were to be used long term.
Come to think of it, even before meeting my hubby, I've never had a guy express concern about wearing one.
Lastly, I know this is really shallow....but I've never been emotionally attracted to extremely good looking men. And the guy you've described goes along with my gut instinct. I could never get past thinking that he was probably dumber than a box of hammers and/or really vain.
Vain definitely...he had reason to be...extremely good looking....but up until the condom comment....he seemed rather intelligent and by his profession, obviously educated.............It just goes to show that being wise has little to do with scholastic education...
Just to add....I probably expected that comment from this guy, but for him to say that no one he’d been with insisted or even asked for one to be on is mind boggling to say the least!
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Not sure if he has ever been in love or married...wasn’t interested in finding out after his disclosures...He is 35...
Agreed! Too much of a risk in my books, even if it is for the sake of pleasure...
If someone told me they'd rather not have sex than have sex with a condom, I'd tell them it was their lucky day! They're going to get to "not have sex!"
Seriously, between STDs and pregnancy, your entire life could end or change due to a simple one time encounter. It's not worth taking that chance if you're not in a long term relationship.
When I was 17, I got a call from my summer girlfriend (we used condoms, but not all the time) telling me she was be pregnant. I thought life as I knew it was over. As it turned out, nature took care of that, and both of us were able to move on, get educations, and start families when we were ready. So I can tell you that sex *is* better without a condom, but its not *that much* better. It's no so good that I'd risk getting a phone call about an unplanned pregancy or an STD.
FWIW - I had an STD scare once, too. I had discovered that my attractions weren't limited to women, and had had a wild weekend with another guy. This was before anyone knew about HIV or AIDS, so we didn't think condoms were an issue. Two weeks later, I got a bump, and went nervously to the college health clinic. I dropped my pants for the doctor, who examined me, asked a few questions about pain or other symptoms, and then told me with a straight faceI had a disease I'd never heard of - follicultis! I didn't exhale til 2 minutes later, when he smiled and said "It's an infected hair. Wash better and towel off before you get dressed!" But it was still more than enough to let me know that condoms were going to be a part of my sex life until I was in a long term relationship with someone I could literally trust with my life.
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