I can't lose him.. Someone please..

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Registered: 09-11-2007
I can't lose him.. Someone please..
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Tue, 08-03-2010 - 8:31am
Okay someone please help me.. I can't sleep.. I've been crying for the past 4 hours.. Me and my bf just broke up. We broke up over something kinda stupid but I am at the point where I can't lose him. So this is where I tell you what happened.. So we were swimming with his whole family and then we got out to go eat well me and his sister wanted some StarBucks and some french fries so we went to go get that.. And then we come back to his brothers place. Where his brothers wife is cooking dinner for the rest of the family. So we were going good but then I realized what time it was and I was behind cause I always pick my mom up from work so then I had told him lets hurry up. Then his younger brother was still eating and I had said something to him like "i have to pick my mom up" and then he didn't say nothing so I just said out loud " let him walk home" well my bf is big on family so I disrespected his brother and his whole family by saying that. Then he comes up to me saying that wasn't necessary. Then we started to walk outside then I walked ahead on the phone.. He started yelling saying I'm not gonna put up with your crap with being on the phone.. Well I get in the car and then take off he yells at me saying that were not gonna leave his brother then he gets out cause I had asked if I could make a phone call.. And I chased after him but it didn't work. Now I am at the point where I know maybe what I said was wrong. But I can honestly say that I can't lose him. He said he needs time.. And that he doesn't wanna let go but he just can't forgive me right now.. But Idk what to do? Cause he said that I was different cause no girl has ever made him cry. And that I fit into his picture perfect world.. I just can't lose him I can't.. He is my best friend my everything.. And Idk what to say or do cause I can't lose him. So my advice is please help me get him back in someway? Or tell me what to do to get him back?
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Registered: 08-01-2006
Tue, 08-03-2010 - 8:51am
Maybe take a couple of days for the two of you to cool down a bit. Then you need to own up to your mistake, call him and apologize. Then it's up to him if he wants to accept it or not.



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Tue, 08-03-2010 - 9:18am

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Tue, 08-03-2010 - 10:48am

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Tue, 08-03-2010 - 11:30am

I don't blame him for being annoyed. If you have a commitment, you have a responsibility to be aware of what time it is. "Let him walk home" was just kind of mean.

Now he's wondering if he really wants to be with someone who is capable of this kind of treatment. I think he blew this out of proportion, but you say he's very family-oriented, so within that context, it makes sense that this was a big deal to him. Then instead of apologizing or listening to him when he was trying to be civil and tell you that he felt disrespected, you walked away and ignored him. I hope you can understand why he's not sure about you now. You acted like a high school girl and it's not attractive.

I don't know how long you've been dating, that would be very relevant to your story. It's best now to give him space and let him cool off. You sound pretty desperate in your post - Don't do anything desperate, you'll push him further away. I think you just need to wait, and apologize (sincerely) if he comes back. He has the right to re-think this relationship if he wants.

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Registered: 04-21-2008
Thu, 08-05-2010 - 1:06pm

I think that, if he is getting that furious at your over saying his brother can walk home, there are other issues going on in his head. Have you had fights like this before?

(HUGS) I hope you feel better soon!

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