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|Mon, 04-12-2010 - 5:12pm|
I'm Vicky, and kind of new. I was around when ivllage was first starting. Anyway, I've been seperated for 3 years now. He took our sons and moved into his mother's empy house. I know he married me for my mom's money. We agreed that when we got married, if my built us these two houses, one for her and one for us, we would take care of her when she got older. He was going to raise his farm animals across both properties. Anyway, I did take care of mom while my now EX focused on himself. So when I need help, his family swooped in and took over my house.
Mom passed. We tried to stay together and keep the property. We even had his cousin rent the house for 5 years. However, I couldn't live with my husband. He was controlling, abusive and underhanded. I couldn't trust him.
Like I said, we've been seperated for 3 years. Alot of crap has happened between the two of us. He took the boys. Everyone asks why he has the boys, because he left me with a house that's run down, I'm in debt because of him and I can't afford to get an attorney. Well, now I can, because I have sold off my mom's property and paid off the debt on her estate. Ex did help me take care of the place. He paid for repairs and for the taxes. The estate is reimbursing him for that. However, he is also charging the estate $50 a week for lawn care. We had a verbal agreement to take care of mom so he could have the animals on her property. I never hired him to mow the lawn. I never agreed to do this while his sheep got free board. So now he wants money. He just did it. I didn't know that he was going to charge the estate. Greedy, Greedgy
Well things are moveing along. I'm getting closer to being able to hire an attorney to sue for custody and then the divorce. He still has sheep on my property. I allow this so he will pay his part of the bills. Each month it's a fight because nothing is in writing. He has more money than I do and he has his families money too. I have next to nothing. I want to move on, find another path and I'm preparing for it. Moving towards it.
He seems happy to keep things as they are. Well, I don't. I want my sons, I want to know what they are doing and how they are doing. I can't go down to where they live because I will be kicked off. So he brings them up to me. Six months ago I've changed the locks and what a freeing experience that was. He would go through the house and take what he wanted. He's using me and I'm using him. So now that I have some of the the money from the estate, it's time to place it in the courts hands. I think he has his cake and get's to eat it too......but now when I go to court, My attorney says he doesn't have a pot to piss in.