I just don't get it.

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Registered: 08-03-2007
I just don't get it.
Sun, 08-01-2010 - 5:37pm

I was seeing this guy for two months we saw eachother everyday since the moment we met and he dumped me last week for his ex.

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Registered: 05-18-2009
Mon, 08-02-2010 - 11:26am

This guy is pathetic. Why are you wasting time trying to understand what's going on his mind? You only dated for two months, during which time he was throwing himself a pity party over his ex and for some reason you continued dating him. Can you at least agree that you should have dumped him first?

He's a person who right now is in a dark place. He has no self-esteem, no confidence, no ability to be a good partner to anyone. It really doesn't matter what he's thinking because he's really not a fully-functioning human being right now. Everything he does is out of desperation and neediness and desire to fill these emotional holes that he has.

You told him goodbye, you don't have to let this eat at you anymore.

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Registered: 11-11-1999
Sun, 08-01-2010 - 11:13pm

It sounds like things aren't going well with the ex and he wants to maintain something with you.

You need to enforce a no contact rule with him. Things are way too raw to maintain a friendship with him.


Cynic: a blackguard whose faulty vision sees things as they are, not as they ought to be.---Ambrose Bierce, The Devil's Dictionary.


Cynic: a blackguard whose faulty vision sees things as they are, not as they ought to be.---Ambrose Bierce, The Devil's Dictionary.

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Sun, 08-01-2010 - 8:09pm

Girl get a grip!

>>> And as soon as she saw him with me she started her quest to try and get him back.<<<<<
Yeah, well how did you meet the challenge? Many women ignore men who are alone but put a girl by his side and then they are interested.

>>>He said I didn't open up enough with him and he thought I only liked him because he was hot and sexy when really the reason I liked him was for his personality and how sweet he was. <<<<<<
This person cannot accept himself as he is. His vision of himself is damaged. There maybe a sense of sexual pride in having her run back to him. (feminine seal of approval)

>>>>I wrote him a long message telling him how I felt about him right before he dumped me and he said it was too late and I should have told him how I felt at the times I felt it. Then I wrote him a message that I said not to reply to saying he's settling and she will cheat on him again and that he could never be right for me anyway if he would take someone back after that.<<<<<<<

Why then this missive? Why insult him?

>>>Someone please explain this to me. Is he messing with me. I know he is smart enough to know I wouldnt want those things back especially considering the fact that they would remind me of him. Is he just thinking of excuses to see me again or does he really want to give me those things back? And why would I give my resume to someone that just broke my heart.<<<<<
Yes he may really want to give those things back and burning bridges is unwise. Who knows hen his friendship will come in handy.
Yes you are upset. But it never hurts to practice civility. At the worst you can throw those things away yourself. I think he may want to make peace with you.

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