Interested or not?

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Registered: 06-26-2007
Interested or not?
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Tue, 04-06-2010 - 9:07pm
So I met this guy a little over a month ago via an old family friend. I'm having a hard time understanding if he is interested or not... Let me fill you in on some important details first. He was married and divorced two years ago. Our last date he explained everything and it seems quite overwhelming , to sum it up, his wife was diagnosed with mutiple mental illnesses and starting drinking and doing cocaine and began cheating...also of note, he owns a very successful business.
He tells me he wants children and we seem to have many of the same core values. We seem to have spark, but so far just kissing.
In the month I have known him, we have only seen each other four times. I guess once a week average. He calls during the week, maybe once or twice. Sometimes he says he will call and then doesn't, usually followed by a Text or something saying he worked late or whatever it may be.
I guess the question is, how can u tell if a guy is interested?? I'm thinking he may be more apt to take things slower because of his marraige situation and the fact he has such a busy job. Am I making excuses or does the contact we have not seem like someone who is interested?? Also, is the slow intimate thing a good sign or bad?? I can't tell if he is interested and I'm asking for too much too soon or if I should just move on?
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Registered: 01-02-2010
Tue, 04-06-2010 - 11:29pm
My feeling is as long as he keeps calling, texting, and asking you out, he's interested. A date once a week sounds reasonable at first, especially considering the hours he may well put in with his own business. From what you said, it sounds like it's on to me.
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Registered: 08-01-2006
Wed, 04-07-2010 - 11:27am
To me it sounds like he's interested. You haven't known each other for that long, so try not to rush or push him into anything. Just take it slow, have fun and get to know each other. He's been in touch with you, and he also owns his own business which I would imagine takes up tons of his time.


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Registered: 06-26-2007
Thu, 04-08-2010 - 2:14am
Thanks For the optimism. I'm not sure why I'm over analyzing this one, maybe because I really like him?? I called him Monday night, he answered and sounded like I woke him up. We talked for just a few minutes and he said he would call me Tuesday and then never did! Still have not heard from him. Should I still be relaxing or does this sound sketchy?
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Registered: 08-01-2006
Thu, 04-08-2010 - 8:24am
Well, I can't really figure out what's going on in his mind, but you've called him and he said he'll call you back. I would say the ball is now in his court. Let him make the next move. But,



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Registered: 06-22-2006
Fri, 04-09-2010 - 3:39pm
On top of what's already been suggested to you, my input is to stop **looking** for things to be suspicious about!!!!

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Fri, 04-09-2010 - 5:37pm
Haha you are right . You are all probably (hopefully) right. I'm going to try and gang in there and be patient . Afterall he does own an insurance company in the state where all the floods just happened! Maybe that is a little more of a priority at the moment ;). Likely even crisis mode! Thanks for the advice, keep it com
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Registered: 06-26-2007
Sun, 04-11-2010 - 7:46pm
Ok so just a little update . Tomorrow will be one week with no contact. I guess my gut feeling was right :(. I honestly do not know how much I even liked this guy, really don't feel like it was enough time to figure it out. BUT on the other hand, rejection is NEVER fun..... Tried calling him yesterday and the phone rang and rang , no voicemail available just a weird at and t message saying party was not answering. Weird. Sent a text and nothing back . Oh well, another one bites the dust! I don't know at what point in dating it's appropriate to tell the person it's not working, what do u all think?? In my experien e if it's one or two dates no duscussion is warranted but I feel more than that it would be respectful??