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|Thu, 04-10-2003 - 10:21am|
For me, I guess rule #1 is to follow what my heart.
First dates & kisses: I don't mind kissing on the first date, but at the same time, that all depends on the guy. I've never gone out on a date with a complete stranger, while long day stated that she has never dated a friend. Yes, I've made friends with people before in order to get to know someone better, but I've never accepted a date from someone that I didn't know at all. I've been on a blind date before, but the set up was made by mutual friends, and the initial dates were more of a casual "friend" setting anyhow. I guess my reasoning behind all of this is: if you're going to date someone for an extended amount of time, your going to need to mingle with each others friends well. Having a lot of friends is an important part of my life, and any guy I date will have to put up with that.
Sex: No first month sex. That's just a minimum... there is no maximum.
Trust: This is the issue that sparked my post, and where I am having the most mixed feelings. Where do you draw the line on how much you have to understand a person's character before you can trust them? I agree that trust is something that should be earned, but just HOW much do you need to know about a person before you can trust them? In the case of art guy, I've known him, his family, and his friends for quite some time, I decided that I did at least know enough about him to feel safe enough to be alone around him, but I was wrong. How guarded should one be? Do I now have to know a guy's life story before I can trust him? Do I have to wait 2 months before I ever kiss someone?
My entire thought structure on this issue is being threatened. I spoke on the phone last night to my two best friends: Friend #1 decided that you never know which ones are the jerks, and that you have to be more careful about who you trust. Friend #2 stated that I should not abandon everything that I believe based on one bad experience- continue trusting the way I know how to, and be glad that this guy is no longer a part of my life... he'll get what's coming to him. This was an isolated experience, and not all men would do the same thing or have those intentions.
So, my question is, and this may have been covered in previous posts before but I'll give it a shot anyways... what are your "rules"