The irony of it all :(

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The irony of it all :(
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Thu, 05-19-2011 - 11:11pm

These last few weeks have been such an emotional roller coaster for me starting with elation after our first date to worrying that I sabotoged things...to telling him to get lost!

Even as recent as last night things were so wonderful. He told me that he hoped I was the one he was looking for and I said the same. We made plans for next weeknd. It continued today with sweet words and caring towards me. But then something happened that turned Jekyl into Hyde. I won't go into the gory details but this afternoon he started suggesting that I do something for him of a sexual nature. I told him no way. As the afternoon went on his suggestion became more adament and I continued to say no. Then he finally said you know what I want its your decision. Pretty much he gave me an ultimatum. So I wrote him and said here's my answer. I told him that I had too much respect for myself to do that and that I will not be involved with someone who gives me ultimatums or threatens me that they will leave if they don't get their way. I also told him that I was not losing him...he was losing me. I said I hoped he realized what he was throwing away to fulfill a f*cking sexual fantasy!

I'm hurt...sad and numb. I'm having a real hard time believing that 24 hrs ago I was on top of the world and so happy looking forward to the future...and tonight its all gone. :( the only thing good that came out of this for me was I am not falling apart because I sabotoged it...it was him that did it this time.

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Fri, 05-20-2011 - 12:05am

Well, I don't know your history with this guy but if he wasn't the right guy to sleep with he wasn't, and him pressuring you and using it against you just proves you were right not to.

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Fri, 05-20-2011 - 8:03am

Thanks Violet. I actually did those things you mentioned too..the bed but bounderies thing and looking too far into the future. And yes it hurts a lot. A part of me is still hoping that he'll come and say how sorry he was and what a fool etc etc...yeah I know total fantasy here. My heart is really hurting right now for what could have been but I know I did the right thing. I just hope he realizes what he lost but considering how imporant sexual gratification was to him...I somehow doubt it.

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Tue, 05-24-2011 - 2:17am

what a dirt bag...he was sweet talkin you into getting what he wanted...douche bag rolled in dirt

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Tue, 05-24-2011 - 4:20pm
It sucks but at least you know right away that he is incompatible with you.

There's no use mourning "what could have been" because the reality is that this guy was a jerk to you, apparently, and so there is no way he could have been any different from that.

The trash is out on the curb and now it's time to move on. Don't dawdle or mope on this, chalk it up to whatever and get going back out there again.

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Fri, 06-03-2011 - 2:12pm

So what was the thing he wanted to do?

Good distraction frees us from emotional pain, bad distraction gives you a mouth full of whizz. ~~~ Guru Tugginmypudha