It's me, right?!?

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Registered: 03-10-2010
It's me, right?!?
Wed, 03-10-2010 - 11:24am

Ok, so my bf and I have been dating for 4 years, living together for most of that time.

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Registered: 05-04-2007
Wed, 03-10-2010 - 12:05pm

After 4 years ... this is the pattern of your relationship.

You can tell him how much it hurts your feelings, but he's clearly shown he doesn't care to change his behavior at all. If he meant to make you feel better, he'd already have done it.

It's both of you, not being right for each other.

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Registered: 09-23-2009
Thu, 03-11-2010 - 9:24am

What he is doing is emotional cheating. It's fine to have work friends of the opposite sex who you talk to in passing, but to give your phone number to someone of the opposite sex from work or otherwise, unless they are gay, is inappropriate.

I would not accept this in my boyfriend, and would break up with him if he thought it was okay to do this. I do not have the desire to talk to any man that I work with outside of work, as I feel like my boyfriend is my best friend, and it would be inappropriate to make a new friend who is of the opposite sex.

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Registered: 06-22-2006
Fri, 03-12-2010 - 3:31pm

To be honest, I sincerely doubt you will get a man who is not married to you, even if you are living with him, to go to counseling with you.

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Registered: 01-02-2010
Sat, 03-13-2010 - 10:08am
In my opinion your jealousy is appropriate. I know you're not married but living together for four years certainly isn't casual dating. So he likes to have special lady friends from work. He blows you off, tells you that that is what he is going to do no matter how you feel about it and by the way, you're crazy? And this is a pattern? Oh no, Nini, I think I would be packing. You probably need someone who has more respect and appreciation for the one who's waiting at home for him.