just friends or what?

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Registered: 03-21-2010
just friends or what?
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Sun, 03-21-2010 - 9:51pm

So we've all have had a crush on a male friend at some point. Maybe not a "friend" but associate at work or school. You all talk about his life, he asks you about his new "relationship" (in which he claims the girl was the aggressor) and you give him some helpful advice.

Anyway, weeks and days go by. you feel a bit deeper about him not because he's taken but because he's funny and a great listener and seems to take notice in you well; such as noticing what you tell him about yourself, the jokes the two of you have made and the fact that there are some similarities in life you two share. The confusion comes in when you HINT at exchanging numbers and he all of a sudden says, "you have to be special in order to get into this phone. You're on an 8month waiting list."

Although his number is smack dab on Facebook right there in my face, I want him to verbally give it to me...

do you think I should wait until he verbally gives me his number or forget about it?

p.s I keep thinking he might like me as well, but him having other girls for friends, I've never seen him interact with them... Also, he goes out his way to have a conversation with me.

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Sun, 03-21-2010 - 11:05pm

My take on it is he likes you as a friend only. Personally I would take it as a strong "no" to more than friends when you ask for his phone number and he turns you down. I would certainly not get his number off facebook and call him anyway if that's what you meant. It does suck when feelings aren't returned the way you would like so hopefully I'm wrong.




Edited 3/21/2010 11:12 pm ET by newyearpub
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Mon, 03-22-2010 - 1:50am
if he only wants to be friends only, than he would of still gave me the number... I'm only a friend. He don't know I like him...
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Mon, 03-22-2010 - 2:56am
Oh sorry, I misunderstood you then.
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Mon, 03-22-2010 - 3:00am

Telling you there's a wait list for his number makes him sound a bit full of himself if you ask me. Or he's got a lot of bravado making up for a low self esteem? Actually...he says the girl was an aggressor....so I think it's low self esteem.

Either way, I think it's just plain weird to not give your number to a friend. I mean, from his reaction, I'd usually guess that he doesn't like you....but the fact that he seeks you out proves that theory wrong.

You know, it makes far more sense to put your interest in men who are easy to understand :-)

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Registered: 12-18-2009
Mon, 03-22-2010 - 5:49am

The guy cant give his phone no.? VERY weird and probably a jerk ! I wouldnt even consider him a friend because one always has a friends contact number and they are the one of the first who get the new no. first when it gets changed for any reason.

A guy who cant even give his no. is going to bring a lot of issues with him.I agree,he thinks too much of himself! Its a turn off if you ask me.

A long waiting list ?? such a sick thing to say!

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Registered: 08-01-2006
Mon, 03-22-2010 - 9:21am
Wow, what a thing to say! He must think he's something special. Personally, I don't think he likes you at all, the way you want him to. He has to talk to you, you work at the same place.



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Mon, 03-22-2010 - 9:11pm

I know I'm asking you all for your opinions and I thank you for them. However something about him is a bit different from other guys i've liked. Other guys made it clear they're not interested by dodging me or acting as if I'm not there.

He doesn't seem to mind chatting with me around others. I believe he cuts out talking to other girls because of his girlfriend.

And the part about him being a jerk and arrogant, he's had 8 surgeries on his head and he has a very peculiar personality and sense of humor.

I guess my question should have been, if a guy is taken, but interested in another girl( I don't condone cheating), how would he act different towards the girl he thinks is hot?

remember he has a female bff...

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Registered: 08-01-2006
Tue, 03-23-2010 - 7:16am

In a sense he is dodging you if he won't even give you his number. Also, he has a girlfriend and a female bff.


Personally, I think if a man is taken and interested in another, then he needs to get rid of the girlfriend first before messing around with another.



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