Just want to know why he's acting weird....thoughts?

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Registered: 07-30-2007
Just want to know why he's acting weird....thoughts?
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Thu, 02-03-2011 - 7:54pm

Hello all, I have a situation (not an important one) but I'm just curious about a co-worker's actions, please share your thoughts. .

Im 28 and last year our office hired a contract employee who was just fresh out of college, he was about 21, he worked at my office for 10 months, the whole entire time he was there we never said much to each other other than your regular hellos and byes, how are you etc.

Anyway, he ended up getting transferred to another location (but still worked for the same company).

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Registered: 05-18-2009

HATES you? No.

Come on, you're intuitive enough to know that this guy liked you. He thought he had a chance with you. Perhaps naively, he thought he could take you away from your boyfriend.

So things didn't work out for him. C'est la vie. Does he hate you? No, but maybe he's embarrassed and scorned. You don't want to think you rejected him but you did put up a wall against his advances and maybe he shouldn't have been asking you out for drinks, but to tell him he shouldn't feel rejected would be kind of unreasonable.

Things are fine though, right? No trouble with your boyfriend, and this guy knows you're taken. So if he seems a little off after realizing he's not going to date you, don't blame him too much for it, and don't take it to mean anything huge. It is what it is.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-14-2007

Why did you have drinks with him?

Denise

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-18-2009

Haha, I was wondering this myself... Even if you bring a girlfriend along, saying "yes" to drinks with him was the first mistake in leading him on

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-06-2008

you had to have known he liked you ....anyway hes embarressed and did you ever mention to him you had a BF not just a name but a BF..." hey would love to have a drink I just need to make sure my BF doesnt mind that I go out with another guy"