A Man and His Grudges
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|Mon, 09-15-2003 - 11:16am|
I read an article recently about men and women...women are generally more verbal, but men generally take words more literally, so it suggested that women show more action about the things that are important to them, and less verbal explanation...Ok, sounded reasonable to me, so that's what I've been doing...I've left my estranged husband to his own space to think, accepted him into mine when he requests it, forgiven him the affair and I continue to be myself and treat him as I affectionately would under regular circumstances....Now when I do this, he says I'm trying too hard...it feels like a catch 22 for me....If I treat him stand-offishly, he begins to react as though I am not open-minded to repairing our marriage....If I treat him as I normally would had we not seperated, he says I'm trying too hard....
What you do? How do your show your genuine feelings, respect the situation, prevent misunderstanding and still get somewhere besides "limbo"?