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|Fri, 08-30-2013 - 12:57pm|
I've been with my BF about a year and a half. He's 42, I'm 33. Recently he has been complaining that he feels himself going soft. Not in the sexual sense but in the overall physical.
This all started when two weeks ago he went to his parent's house to help out with some things. Moving furniture, installing lights, fans, etc. He did a full day’s work and then his back hurt for a week.
He has brought it up a few times and apparently, this is really bothering him. I'm wondering if these are signs of the famous male "mid-life-crisis" coming on! He hates the fact that these "simple tasks" take such a toll on him.
All he does is talk about how "back in the day" he used to load trucks for a living. It was hard, physical labor and the hours were long. Uh… this was in his 20's. I don't want to keep pointing a finger and insinuating "hey, you are old now" but I'm at a bit of a loss to say. I've been listening and understanding so far and just let him talk.
I think he might discredit me a bit because we aren't the same age. Heck, I can't do everything I could do at 22 either. I notice a difference in my night vision- which I told him.
My question is this: Is there anything I can say to him to make him feel better? Is this normal behavior for guys in their early 40's? Will it pass?
He said he doesn't want to join a gym but will start doing some stretches and conditioning at home. I offered the idea of taking walks together. Honestly, I just think he needs to accept it but he really seems to have trouble gripping the realization. Inwardly, I admit that I giggle a bit. I would never laugh at him directly but would rather find a way to help.