Man sending mixed messages - Is he interested?
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|Thu, 02-21-2013 - 5:39pm|
I've had a crush on this man for a long time... secretly, for several years actually. I've seen him once in a while in parties etc. Now I really need some advice to figure out if he could be interested! I had a relationship with a man he for some reason dislikes, but we broke up couple of months ago. I've spent a lot of time with my crush in parties - till early hours, chatting about things personal to him, or to me. Still it's seemed he dislikes me - I actually told him I thought he doesn't like me, and he said that's cause he doesn't... But he continued that in a way he likes me a lot, and that it's complicated. (At that time I was still with this other person, please know I would have never cheated on him despite of this crush!) He also said, just out of a sudden and casually, that he isn't interested in me. That hurt... It was so hard to hide how much I care for him, I just acted somewhat offended "Well that's flattering" etc.
Since my break-up I've seen him in a party (once again) and during early hours we didn't talk that much, just glanced a bit. Later we spent some more time together, almost everybody else left but we stayed to talk; this time I did most of the talking. He just kept asking about my ex: "Why him? Why him?" During that night he also touched me on several occasions, casually my arm etc - earlier there was nothing like that! He also came to me to tell me that there are few people he can approve of but that I could be one of them ... And I became angry at him, because he sounded so rrgh.. self-sufficient (I know he was trying to be nice in some weird way and he was surprised of my reaction). After some time he told me, once again out of the blue, that he doesn't feel attracted to me... I never asked :/ Later he told me that he likes me "so much". And asked me "why are you still sitting here, with me?" I just couldn't tell... That I care for him, although he can be incredibly annoying, and has also been rude to me sometimes. Just can't help it! I'm sure you understand what I mean.. Please tell me, do you think there could be something between us!