man's opinion... abuse?
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|Sat, 03-13-2010 - 1:36pm|
i've been in a relationship for 9 months. overall the relationship is happy, filled with love and laughter. There have been a handful of incidents where he snaps - and becomes verbally abusive, mean and completely unreasonable.
recently, two of his close friends (one male, one female) have talked to me about his past drug/alcohol abuse and suggested that they thought he was better since we have begun dating. i really have fallen in love with him... and was somewhat unaware of any drink/drug issues until recently.
i'm trying to reconcile the i love you's with the mean comments. one day i'm amazing and the best thing that ever happened to him - the next day i'm immature and do not have the depth to understand him. one minute he is completely in love with me and misses me, the next he'll be fine on his own and blames me for keeping him up all night b/c he was so upset over me.
i'm reluctant to talk with friends about his outbursts because they will not like him and want to protect me - and they will always remember the bad.
i'm generally a really happy, social person - lately, i've been down and sad. i guess this forum gives me someplace to vent anonymously and get real thoughts from real people... bring it on. I think I know what I'll get back in responses....