masturbation

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masturbation
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Thu, 10-02-2003 - 2:03pm
My husband says he has never masturbated. Is that possible?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: bwolfe2003
Thu, 10-02-2003 - 2:55pm
Title: Ummm....


Possible? Of course.

Likely? No, but given all that goes into making the human psyche what it is, I certainly wouldn't rule it out. LOTS of people think masturbation is evil. If, for example, your husband feverently believes this, well, there you go. I don't doubt for one moment that there are plenty of repressed and terrorized Catholics out there who have never masturbated.

However, the real question is...what difference does this make to you?

There is more to this story than you are telling...which is your right, of course, but if you have some concern in your marriage that you are dealing with, you are absolutely focusing on the wrong part....


Edited 10/2/2003 3:12:26 PM ET by gogobear

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In reply to: bwolfe2003
Thu, 10-02-2003 - 3:07pm
I suppose so. Anything is possible. How on earth did this come up in conversation, if I might ask. I have a feeling context had something to do with it.

I can't imagine why someone would lie about something so innocuous, but it seems unlikely that he's never done it.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: bwolfe2003
Thu, 10-02-2003 - 3:09pm
Ha ha, great minds...

~Artie-the reformed terrorized Catholic

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Registered: 05-11-2003
In reply to: bwolfe2003
Thu, 10-02-2003 - 3:32pm
I agree with the others. He must've masturbated - we all do for the most part.

What worries me is his mentality towards self pleasure. Maybe you can help him open up? He probably has some pretty erotic fantasies he'd like to fulfill, and you could start by showing him how you like to be touched when you two are making love. Slowly it will open him up as I'm sure he'd find the whole visual very erotic. Then with your hand, help him do it to himself once he's gotten comfortable with watching how open you are to touching yourself. I did this with my s/o - what a WILD experience!!!


Oops! Sorry to type such a steamy post! I'm around the topic of sex and reproduction all day at work, so it's nothing for me to go off on a diatribe like this. Lol...in all seriousness though, give this a try.

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Registered: 10-01-2003
In reply to: bwolfe2003
Thu, 10-02-2003 - 3:33pm
It really doesn't matter to me if he has or not. I just always wondered since I always hear that all men masturbate. Yes he does think it is nasty or bad.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: bwolfe2003
Thu, 10-02-2003 - 5:15pm
Title: I've got news for you....


**"I just always wondered since I always hear that all men masturbate."**

Not all people do anything.

If it doesn't matter, then let it go. He has his reasons, whatever they might be, for saying he doesn't and never has. And like I said, that could be the truth. If it doesn't matter, then let it go...

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Registered: 10-01-2003
In reply to: bwolfe2003
Thu, 10-02-2003 - 5:27pm
Thanks for responding to my post, but it looks if others think I am out of line for posting this. So I will drop it.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: bwolfe2003
Thu, 10-02-2003 - 5:39pm
There really are very few things that are out of line, and you can post about whatever you want. I hope something you got here was helpful.

~Artie