Methods of Torture

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Methods of Torture
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Wed, 03-26-2003 - 2:35pm
Ok, I'm trying to be a bigger person so I'm going to post this little ditty in the interest of UOS without complainging even once about this silly new format. (Ok, that was once.)

I'm getting ready to go to school this afternoon and I have to get dressed for a fund raiser I'm going to immediately after. It's a casual atmosphere, but I still want to look great in case any, ahem, available young men are there. Here's the deal. We women pluck and paint and shove ourselves into corseted tops that would make a medieval torturer shudder with delight...not to mention the shoes that should probably be banned as cruel and inhuman punishment, and my big question here is does it matter? Do guys even care? I realize more often than not that most women are dressing to impress themselves or other women and most of the men I know can't tell the difference between my Nikes and my Kenneth Coles.

So, I open the topic to discussion. Enlighten me while I work up the courage to don the 4 inch heeled boots.

~Artie

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Thu, 03-27-2003 - 12:06pm
Yah, we're both taken, but you've met my husband. Perhaps the next time we're all at the same get-together, you can suggest the shoes.

And you caught me. I very rarely/never wear the good suit, precisely *because* I don't have appropriate shoes to go with it. My shoe collection does need some serious work. Perhaps I should ask your dw to take me shoe shopping if I'm ever in your neck of the woods?? ;-) As for a good leather purse...yeah, I could use one of those for more formal occasions too (both business-formal and formal-formal). That's more a matter of what I can afford than what I'm willing to buy.

For the record, dh owns several nice suits and some good shoes, in addition to his vast jeans-and-t-shirt collection. He enjoys dressing up, and *d!mn* but he cleans up nicely!

Your list of criteria amused me, but I do get the meaning behind it. I *am* enough of a "grownup" to be perfectly comfortable dressing up to attend an interview, a corporate Christmas party, or a night at the Symphony with dinner at a French restaurant afterwards. That last is my favorite date with dh--we do it at least once a year.

--fc

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Fri, 03-28-2003 - 6:29pm


Of course guys care how women dress - it is part of a woman's personality. It is not just the clothes -it is the hair, makeup & manner in which she carries herself. When you dont know someone, you mentally evaluate them based on how they look. Does she present herself like a frumpy bag lady or does she exude confidence & pride in who she is? Is this some one that you would be interested in knowing further or do you want to run.

I must admit that I like the natural look & well manicured nails. IMO - too many women dont know how to apply makeup & end up wearing too much which makes them less attractive. But when it is tastefully done - wow -the women do look hot.

Of course, how does a guy tell a beautiful woman that her make-up makes her look less attractive. She has spend hours to sellect, buy & apply the makeup. And all this effort has made her feel more attractive - yet the guy across the table prefers her without it. Tough situation.

Believe me - many guys notice whether you are wearing high heels or running shoes & will likely know "how many inches" the heels are. They will notice if you are wearing a skirt....they are always watching....and will try to figure out if you are wearing a thong. LOL Even if they dont know, they will still speculate - typical guy. LOL

On behalf of all the guys that appreciate women's efforts when getting ready to go out - TY very much.

JF


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 03-29-2003 - 8:46pm
Well, you're certainly welcome.

I'm glad to know all the effort isn't wasted.

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