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|Sun, 07-29-2012 - 11:24pm|
I met a man a few months ago on an online site. We agreed to meet after he told me he was leaving to go out of town for a few weeks, so we had drinks and talked for hours. We agreed to meet again when he returned. Later on in the week I was online, the site we met checking emails and he sent me a message about how dissapointed he was that I was still searching. I though it odd as we only had drinks.
When he was gone he called regularly, and got somewat twisted if I didnt respond right away. He asked me if I was for real.
Later we met up again and went out to dinner, we went out several times while he was back in town (he works out of state but has a home here where I live as well, he is recently divorced) He is a dedicated dad, hard worker and all around great guy. He always goes out of his way when he is here to see me and always calls, texts. After several dates we discussed what we wanted from relationships and he blatanty said he did not trust me because of the online "incident". We talked about how we were not ready for exclusivity, and he felt he needed time to date openly as he was divorced only a few months. I am okay with that, as I feel jumping into something right away wasnt good.
Now after 3 months of dating we met today and he told me he thinks we should continue to date others as he is not ready to committ. I told him honestly I choose not to do so, right now just because of my time and kids and feel I want to just see what happens here, but if I did I would let him know. I am okay with his exploring his options as long as we are being honest. But then again he mentons to me he does not trust me, if we are going to keep things open, where is the trust thing coming in? He also keeps backing on the idea that we do not "match" each others profiles so to speak, but yet he keeps coming back to see me.
So since I am okay with openly dating until either we decide to stop or to be exclusive, why would he keep bringing up the same discussion? I told him if wants to walk away, then do so, but yet, he says no thats not what he wants, he really likes me. and there is potential he just can't promise anything right now. Im just trying to figure out why he keeps bringing it up it feels pretty redundant and is quite honesly confusing