More Mixed Messages & Other BS :(

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Registered: 12-25-2007
More Mixed Messages & Other BS :(
Mon, 06-06-2011 - 9:54am

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Registered: 12-22-2007
Mon, 06-06-2011 - 5:41pm

Hi Lostinreality, nope, there's still no mixed messages from this guy.

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Registered: 11-06-2008
Mon, 06-06-2011 - 11:45pm

he says he likes you....he wants to go slow with out sabotaging it...( black and white right there) He said it...what more are you looking for??? Thats how he feels!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! He wasnt beating around the bush.... go date other men you are wrapping yourself up to soon and to much.

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Registered: 06-18-2011
Sat, 06-18-2011 - 2:29pm

I'm not sure how many posts you have but so far I've read only two and I agree with the one response that says there are no mixed signals. In my opinion, after only a month and around 6 dates you really shouldn't be thinking of the future that much. Maybe a bit in passing and the occasional idea of what it would be like, but to glance too far into the future so soon will surely ruin it.

He's made it clear he has a wall up due to his ex-girlfriend, that is normal to want to take things slow. The fact that he still uses the dating site could mean many things. He may see potential in you but he's probably still interested in seeing what's out there, which is why he still has his account. I wouldn't delete my account after seeing someone only a month or so because you barely know the person. We all deserve happiness and he basically wants to make sure the next woman in his life is the one that will make him happy. I see nothing wrong with him still communicating with other women via the internet or even going out on dates with others. I think after 3-4 months you should start to see if there is potential and maybe the idea of not going on the sites and not dating other people can come up in conversation but until then everything is fair game.

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Registered: 08-27-2005
Sat, 06-18-2011 - 11:54pm

I can certainly learn a lot from your situation, trust me. did he have a bad break up with his former girlfriend?