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|Sat, 07-31-2010 - 11:27pm|
I would just like some advice or understanding to my topic here. I like this guy. Actually I think I'm falling in love with him which is stupid on my part because we don't know each other too well. I don't like to fall fast in case I get hurt. I always have walls and guards up but he has managed to make me lower my defenses. We've only hung out in person twice due to distance issues. He lives about 250 miles away from me so to see each other has to be a weekend trip. I met him through an ex friend of mine when we went up to visit a guy she was interested in. He took a liking to me and he wanted my number and would call and text me a lot in the beginning. He instantly started with the pet names like babe, baby, sweetie names like that. We have discussed this before about not being able to have an actual relationship because of the distance issue. However lately he hasn't been texting or calling much and he says he's been busy and I believe that. I know that school is a lot for him and now that he has a summer job and community service to complete so I know he's busy. I don't like to text or call him a lot because I don't want to come off as clingy or needy to him. The other day just joking with him I sent him a picture of me with a large stuffed Jack Skellington saying I had to settle for the Pumpkin King because you don't want me and I said just kidding hahaha. Just a funny joking around text message
and he sent me a text message back that said: Yes I'd rather we be friends. Mostly.
I'm not sure what that means if he's just looking for friends with benefits or if he would want a relationship with me if we lived closer or what. We haven't had sex and I don't intend to sleep with him for a while and he has never tried to get sex out of me. We have madeout but that's as far as anything goes because I know he respects me and doesn't look for a hookup.
I'm just a little confused by his text message and not sure what he's getting at. I feel a different connection with him because being around him I feel calm. I forget about all my troubles and worries when I'm around him. I feel happy and I really want things to work out but not sure what he's feeling here. If anyone could shed some light on the current situation I'd really appreciate it. I would love to advice from men as well.