New here.... Need input :)

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Registered: 11-30-2011
New here.... Need input :)
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Wed, 11-30-2011 - 8:00pm

So I met this guy back in April. We had dinner and it went great. Talked forever. He works out of state alot. Comes home every couple months or so. At the end of dinner I said to him that next time he was in town we should do this again. He told me he wanted to again before he had to leave. Made me smile. We parted ways and texted over the next few days but he never brought up the possibility of dinner again before leaving so I just let it go. Between then and now we have kept in touch. Not constantly by any means. We would go 3 or 4 weeks and then I would hear from him. 99% of the time he initiated contact and I always replied. Don't know if this matters but we both have dated other people since that one date.

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Registered: 04-21-2008
Fri, 12-02-2011 - 9:41am

It does sound like he likes you if he's continuing to pursue you.

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Registered: 11-30-2011
Fri, 12-02-2011 - 5:35pm

Thanks for the response. :) We were talking yesterday and he said he wanted to try to get together today. He leaves really early in the morning so am not holding my breath. Lol. Have pretty much decided if he asks me...great...if not... maybe next time. I do really like this guy so do hope there's something there but I guess we shall see. I'm pretty picky when it comes to accepting dates so I don't date that often. After my marriage and all the crap I endured with that, I just won't settle for less. This guy seems to have his stuff together and that's one thing that really attracts me. There are just as many crazy guys out there as there are crazy women. :P It seems like I have met quite a few of them. Once the crazy making shows itself I get the hell out of there. I'm pretty mellow and laidback with my moments of hyperness and alot of guys just don't get me. Maybe not what they're used to? Who knows. And by the way...what does KWIM mean? Lol!

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Registered: 10-18-2009
Sat, 12-03-2011 - 4:19pm

KWIM : Know what I mean

How old are you guys, if I may ask?

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Registered: 11-30-2011
Sun, 12-04-2011 - 2:58pm
Hey thanks for the info. :) Maybe if I'd thought hard enough I would've figured that out...lol. To answer your question I'm 41 and he's 36.
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Registered: 09-21-2011
Wed, 12-07-2011 - 4:02pm

okay so what happened? Did he call, did you g o out or what?

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Registered: 11-30-2011
Wed, 12-07-2011 - 5:38pm

The friday he said we would try to get together did not happen. He texted about 8 pm and we chit chatted some but no mention was made about trying to get together. He said he had been running all day and left saturday morning real early. Didn't hear from him until the following monday when he texted as well as contacting me yesterday. I still have no clue what's on his mind. Him contacting me is a good sign I guess but other than that.... nothing. Lol. When we were texting yesterday he told me he was driving. I commented on how I can't text and drive and he said it's not easy. I replied with no it's not but I do like hearing from you. He said is that right. I said yes it is and he responded with...cool. That's all I get from him. He told me once he does like me but that's been it. I'm not expecting him to tell me he loves me and gush all over me. That's not it. Just want to know if he likes me like I like him. Eventually I want to have a relationship but certainly don't want to be strung along...ya know?

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Registered: 12-09-2011
Sat, 12-10-2011 - 7:17am

Looks like he is not sure what he wants to do.

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Registered: 09-25-2010
Sat, 12-10-2011 - 5:51pm
How did you meet this guy? Was it through an online dating site? I'm wondering, from your description so far, if this guy has a girl friend or is married. Not saying that to be harsh or anything, but with his behavior it's something to consider.
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Registered: 11-30-2011
Sat, 12-10-2011 - 8:56pm

I don't get the vibe at all that he's married. He's on my Facebook and the day after our date I posted on there that I'd had a good time with him and he liked it. The 2 times we have gone out it's been to dinner right here in our small area. I would think if that was the case he wouldn't want to chance being so close to home ya know. I know i wouldn't if it was me. Just don't get the married vibe. Normally pick up on it. He is still texting me and nothing is different. Guess we will see when he comes home for Christmas. See if he asks me out again.

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Registered: 09-25-2010
Sat, 12-10-2011 - 10:52pm
Oh, I'm sorry, I completely misunderstood. I thought he came to your town for work and lived somewhere else. Sorry for the confusion. :)

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