Not his fantasy girl

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Registered: 07-05-2006
Not his fantasy girl
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Wed, 02-29-2012 - 12:10pm

I'm really upset. I found a paper today dated this month of this year that my boyfriend wrote and it was all the things he wanted in a girl, his "fantasy" girl. Well the girl is totally opposite of me, he wants a blue eyed blonde girl and I'm brown eyed brunette.

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Registered: 07-05-2006
Sat, 03-03-2012 - 11:16am
I'm really not sure. I mean we've been dating for 7 months now and I love him and I know he loves me so I'm not sure why I snoop. It's almost natural to me and I know it's bad to snoop but I'm not sure how to stop. I always have this urge to snoop.
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Registered: 12-22-2007
Sat, 03-03-2012 - 2:26am

OK, so you've given the circumstances of the snooping.

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Registered: 09-21-2011
Fri, 03-02-2012 - 10:46pm
So you snooped. I would have done the same thing.
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Registered: 07-05-2006
Fri, 03-02-2012 - 7:47pm
He normally takes it to work and I noticed that he left it home and he asked me to bring it when I picked him up for work so I opened his wallet and saw that it was in there.
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Registered: 12-22-2007
Fri, 03-02-2012 - 5:03pm

I too wonder why he'd be writing this down.

But I also wonder how you came about finding a piece of paper which was hidden in his wallet.

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Registered: 07-05-2006
Fri, 03-02-2012 - 12:05pm
Exactly! Plus I realized well he may not have all the qualities in a fantasy guy I'd like either so I can say things too lol.
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Registered: 09-21-2011
Fri, 03-02-2012 - 11:41am

That's good compromise - new place, fresh beginning :)

I am completely not my SO's type, physically, but the rest is so much more important. I'm not tall and thin, I'm short and curvy, He would prefer tall and curvy, too bad!

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Registered: 07-05-2006
Fri, 03-02-2012 - 11:37am
Thanks! Well after our fight he did say sorry and that he only wants me and that he would take the posters down once we move. So that's progress.
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Registered: 09-21-2011
Fri, 03-02-2012 - 11:34am

well, men are odd creatures :)

I hope he listens to you and it works out.

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Fri, 03-02-2012 - 11:29am
The way I brought it up was that I was hurt and upset at the posters he has up in his closet of nearly naked blonde women that I have to see every day because my clothes are in there.

We had a big fight over it and he thought it was dumb I was angry over that because they are just posters, but we are moving to a new place soon and I told him when we move they are not allowed up.

Although I think he lied to me that he doesn't like blondes. I know he does because he wrote it down! But he lies to my face? I mean I know it's not an important issue it's just the fact that he can't be honest and say "Yeah I like blondes." Maybe he doesn't want to say that to hurt my feelings but I'm already hurt so why can't he just admit it instead of denying it.

Someone else mentioned to me that he probably had it hid in his wallet because he didn't want me to see it and worry or get upset by it. Well of course I would...maybe it does just mean nothing. Still makes me wonder why he'd be writing this at work, even if he was bored, and then keep it around.

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