Not a usual kind of guy....
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|Mon, 07-19-2010 - 1:44pm|
I live in a small town where everyone knows everyone else. I'm a 45-year-old woman who has never been married. While I'm not opposed to marriage, I just have never had a relationship that progressed to that point. I'm one of those people who rather be alone and content than married to the wrong person.
Over the past few months, I've been involved in a flirtation with very shy man who isn't particularly social. He's always pretty much kept to himself. He's 42 and also has never been married. I've known him most of my life and I really like him a lot. We spend a lot of time emailing and texting back and forth and while the conversations have not been overtly sexual, there has been a fair amount of flirting and innuendo going back and forth.
Recently, we ran into each other at a local convenience store. He was already in the store when I walked in at the same time as another man. I did not know the man and it was pure coincidence we hit the door at the same time. As I was walking out the door, my friend pulled up and asked if I was with that guy. I told him I wasn't and I didn't even know the man. As my friend pulled away, I sent him a text telling him he was the one I had feelings for.
Well, needless to say, things have cooled off considerably since then. While I know my friend has issues with confidence and is probably unable to share his feelings (if he has any), I don't know if I was wrong for telling him how I felt and put him off somehow.
My friend works in a very technical field and I would guess is better at dealing with numbers and calculations than people and I know this is his busy time of year at work. His job can be overwhelming at times. I don't know if I'm getting blown off or if he simply is over occupied at work. He keeps telling me how busy he is...I know he's telling the truth, but I wonder if it isn't an excuse, too.
Now, I know with most men, I would know he isn't interested and I should move on, but this guy is different. He has absolutely no game (which is refreshing) and doesn't pretend to be anything he isn't. He's just a good, nice guy.
I feel like a teenager because I have no idea how to handle this type of guy. My equilibrium is off.
Should I hang in there and see if he comes around or should I just forget it and move on? I have no experience dealing with men who are this shy.
Also, I have finely tuned gaydar and don't get that impression at all.