Oh Happy day...

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Oh Happy day...
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Wed, 04-23-2003 - 12:19am
Since we pretty much only post the dire here, I thought I'd change the format and let you all in on the great first date I went on today. Even if nothing ever comes of it, it's proof that two people of the opposite sex can have an enjoyable time together and possibly even hit it off...

I technically met him on yahoo personals. There seem to be more people in my age group there than on match. In actuality we met for the first time at the Austin Museum of Art. (So now, I *can* say I met someone in an art museum!)

Robert Frank's The Americans is on display and I'd been trying to see it for a month now. He's a musician, and he'd sent me a few mp3's, and I was pretty surprised at how good he was. He has a very Jack Johnson/John Mayer sound, and since J was a musician as well, I'm pretty critical when it comes to aspiring musicians. Anyway, he arrived bearing gifts of his first cd and a pre-release copy of his new one. We spent about an hour wandering through the exhibit making up stories about the people in the photos.

Then we walked down the street to a little independent coffee house (no Starbuck's thank you very much!) and then next door to a bar for a couple of drinks. About an hour later, we both noticed I was the only woman there. We were in a gay bar. It's hard to tell in Austin. Most of the really cool places are gay bars, but he was totally cool with it, which I loved. We walked a little more and he said he'd definitely like to get together again. He has a show May 10th, but I'll be in Chi-town visiting Miss Cher. His little face was so crestfallen when I told him I couldn't go.

I'm not picking out china yet (of course I doubt I'll do that anyway) but it was one of the nicest first dates I've had in a long time. And he let me pay for our coffee, so that earned major points with me. He also mentioned salsa lessons which earns even more points with me. I love it when people are willing to step outside their comfort zones.

Anyway, I doubt I'll keep you *updated* per se, just thought I'd share some light with all of these tunnels around.

~Artie

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Wed, 04-23-2003 - 9:24am
Great news, Artie! Nice to hear that there is at least one good guy in Texas (other than my uncle in Houston, but he's married and too old for you anyway).

Even if this doesn't go any farther, at least you have a nice memory!

Thanks for giving the rest of us hope!

Lynn

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Wed, 04-23-2003 - 9:41am
It seems like kind of a sad state of affairs that the date you describe is "out of the ordinary". Aren't *most* dates supposed to be like that?

Well, I suppose I'm the one living in a fantasy world now...

I've only been married a little over a year, but I swear dating wasn't as hard or unpleasant as you folks make it sound.

Brokk...

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Wed, 04-23-2003 - 10:07am
Are you kidding? It's awful. But I'm better in relationships than in dating anyway. And first dates are usually the worst. Sad? Maybe. True? Definitely.
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Wed, 04-23-2003 - 10:34am
For me, it was always a hard time finding the right person for the date. By the time the date occured, I was already aware of who they were and what they were like. So perhaps I weened out all the "bad date" potentials. Actually I can't think of even one "bad date". I had a few dead end ones. Others led to some type of relationship. None were unpleasant. A couple were boring.

Brokk...

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Wed, 04-23-2003 - 10:39am
Hey Artie, thanks for the report--good to hear good dating news ;-)! I hope it goes somewhere and you have fun with it.

I am SO not looking forward to getting back out there myself!

Sheri

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Wed, 04-23-2003 - 2:19pm
What a terrific story of hope and happiness. Who knows what the world has in store for you, and even if it's not happily ever after, you have a great memory for years and years to come. Good luck with everything.

Curtis