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|Wed, 07-28-2010 - 3:36pm|
Making this as short as possible......
My boyfriend of 5 1/2 yrs broke up with me this past saturday morning....we have had our problems, everyone does. But this time I think its truly the end.
These last few wks he kept coming up with what I call pathetic reasons to break up with me "before the weekends". So of course I finally got fed up. I kept telling myself if he does it again this weekend I wont take it anymore. Especially cuz every weekend that he does this to me something cool is going on at his friends houses. Party's, big get togethers and BBQ's. We had a discussion about it in the past when were trying to work things out I told him that I need to be a part of his outings sometimes too. I dont mind giving him his space as I always did but he never brought me along, Especially Big parties where his friends bring their girlfriends and other friends along, I felt really left out because I dont have many friends and usually got stuck home drinking by myself and he would come over to MY HOUSE after the parties. It wasnt fair, we had a talk about it, So he promised me he would take me along from now on
we had an incident at the store a few days after where these random girls came up to him and was like hey what are you doing here after he had been hanging out earlier at a friends house and he said Oh i ran into the "homegirl" I was sooooo pissed off that he didn't introduce me as his girl friend apparently there were all hanging out earlier at his friends house in my neighborhood...I was so upset I didnt even wnat to be with him but he cried and begged and took me back to his friends house and introduced me to the girls and anyone else that was there that didnt know me yet. After that things were good.....
.... but then he started breaking up with me right b4 the weekends, I think its his way to not bring me along. Then sure enough late nite(anywhere from 11-3 am if not later) he would call me apologize and beg to come over I allowed it and then we would hang, go to sleep wake up the next day and he would want to leave afternoon time and before he left make a fuss over something dumb. It would then lead to a fight and he would break up...same broken record. Always in time for the weekends.
Well this past weekend he did the same old crap saturday morning, I said Im finally done with it if he is serious about not being with me then Im going to put my foot down and I wont give in anymore that I would not pick up his calls, and that he better not think he can come back to me after the weekend, trying to come over during the week playing the friend card with me (cuz that is what he says and then it leads to sex and then to us getting back together, its an awful pattern).Just to party without me.
So this happend this past Saturday morning. Later that night "HE" called twice I didn't pick up!! I said why so he can try to apologize and convince me to come over again. Im not letting him get his way this time. I made thru the weekend
Sunday I had a missed call from an unknown number about 9pm ish . Monday I picked up a black call with no answer on the other end so I think it may have been him.(It could have been him not sure no messages were left.) I really love him and want it to work out between us but I let him go too far and now Im putting my foot down. I dont know what to do Im lost for words and keep looking at my phone cant eat or sleep.
I guess Im hoping this teaches him a lesson. I guess my goal is to make him suffer longer than a weekend without me and maybe then he'll realize I aint playing and that he needs to be 100% serious about making it work. im trying to scare him and give him a small taste of what it really feels to not have me, not talk to me...how long should I do this for??? I dont want to loose him for good, but he needs to learn his lesson :(
My problem....... Im truly hurting inside Its not like I want it to be the end I just wanted him to see he cant step all over me. And I feel like that is what he has been doing becuase he knows he can come back when ever and I take him back. I guess I didnt think he would be this strong with the No contact thing given that he called me saturday nite and I didnt pick up and I think it may have been him Monday from that blocked#. But its Wed already...Im sooo crushed that he seems to be doing better than me. He should have came crawling back by now.....Whats my next step. Im starting to loose myself, my strength