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Registered: 10-02-2009
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Fri, 09-02-2011 - 5:00pm

Hello everyone,

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Registered: 11-28-1999
In reply to: franny_zooey
Fri, 09-02-2011 - 8:37pm

I assume that when he said open relationships, that his GF also agreed to this, so they were both free to date other people, not that he was cheating on a GF who thought she was the only one, right?

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Registered: 04-09-2008
In reply to: franny_zooey
Sat, 09-03-2011 - 3:23pm

Hi Franny,

Gosh I really don't like the sound of this, but that is just me bringing in my own personal opinion. My first thought was Open? No! Case closed!

He "doesn't mind" being with "just" you? He casually diminished you and you're okay with that?

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-18-2009
In reply to: franny_zooey
Sat, 09-03-2011 - 4:11pm

I agree with this.

If his open relationships were so "successful" then he would still be in them. Ask his exes if they thought the open relationships were "successful".

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Registered: 04-25-2011
In reply to: franny_zooey
Sat, 09-03-2011 - 6:08pm

Get out of this relationship now! Unless you can handle an "open relationship" because I don't believe a word he says - RED FLAG big time.

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Registered: 01-25-2010
In reply to: franny_zooey
Sun, 09-04-2011 - 2:59pm

I see him as trustworthy.

chaika

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Registered: 12-05-2010
In reply to: franny_zooey
Sun, 09-04-2011 - 8:31pm
franny_zooey wrote:

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iVillage Member
Registered: 07-17-2009
In reply to: franny_zooey
Wed, 09-07-2011 - 3:41pm

In my opitions, since the open relationships, I think he might have meant

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-25-2011
In reply to: franny_zooey
Wed, 09-07-2011 - 5:26pm

Let me re-phrase my post

What is his idea of open and exclusive

And most importantly - can YOU handle it

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Registered: 05-18-2009
In reply to: franny_zooey
Wed, 09-07-2011 - 7:05pm

I want to rephrase - I do agree he is honest and probably trustworthy. I just think he's pretty naive if he thinks he's going to convince you to go for an open relationship. If you're not into open relationships, then a guy who enjoys them is probably existing on a very different wavelength. That doesn't mean he isn't trustworthy. Quite the opposite, I'd appreciate his honesty. But to say this highlights a difference in values might be an understatement.

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Registered: 01-25-2010
In reply to: franny_zooey
Thu, 09-08-2011 - 11:46am

The way I see it He is asking you what would you prefer open or closed.

chaika