Please explain.. if you can

You did nothing wrong (and repeat that as many times at it takes). Some people click some don't - he had fun with you that night, maybe he reflected on the evening and did not see long term potential, maybe he met someone else, maybe he switched meds (joking) - I find what works for me is to never email more than a few times tops before talking by phone briefly and deciding whether to meet, and meeting soon if we decide to meet. That way - no real attachment, no unrealistic expectations - meaning I expect no follow up call unless he asks me out for a specific day and time - anything else - no expectations - I've been told many times "I'll call you" "would you like to go out again?" and never heard. Also - what I do - and again this is just me - if he doesn't call I do not call him. For any reason. I do not ask him out unless possibly if it is a group activity and I make it clear "Hi - I didn't hear from you so I assume there was no "click" but you mentioned you liked ___ group and a bunch of us are going to go hear them at ___ next Thursday - want to join us?" Even that I usually avoid. Again - that is just me - if pursuing men and asking them out has worked for you in the past - go for it. Never has for me.

I agree with the others. You can't take it personally. Perhaps he was already seeing someone, and when he got home reflected back and made the choice of which one to persue. When on a matching service you *have* to assume, you are not the only person he is talking to. Just as he should assume you are talking to other people as well.

Chemistry and "clicking" is very important for most people. Even if you feel that you clicked, he may not have. It's nothing you did or didn't do. He just didn't feel the connection. He may have had a wonderful time, but if there wasn't the connection there, then it just wasn't there. Perhaps he didn't feel it, but didn't want to jump to conclusions and ruin his chance with you. So he went along as if things were great, and mulled it over when he wasn't with you.

There are plenty of people who try not to jump to conclusions and burn bridges. It's much easier to get your number, but not call, than it is to not get your number, then try and call you later (when he doesn't have the number). So he err's on the side of caution and makes sure you cover all his bases.

A single date with no follow up call is nothing to lose sleep over. Going steady for three months, then the guy disappears out of the blue... That's far more troubling.

Brokk...