question for the men--the male mind

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question for the men--the male mind
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Tue, 03-30-2010 - 5:07pm

So, is what I've heard true--


1) That most likely our husbands have jacked off thinking about ALL of our good-looking female friends and relatives?


2) That you all think about sex every twenty minutes or so? If so, is it frustrating or pleasant? Thanks.


3) You guys don't really think about your wives when you masturbate, ever, do you? I mean, why would you when she's the familiar one you can have in real life?


I think the difference between male and female in how we think about sex are very interesting and also that we would get along better if we understood eachother better.




Edited 3/30/2010 5:38 pm ET by newyearpub
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Tue, 03-30-2010 - 6:33pm

I asked this question to a good male friend sitting next to me. His response is:

"1) Not all but some
2) Yup
3) Correct

I can only speak for myself but there you go"

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Wed, 03-31-2010 - 6:01pm

1. True


2) Come on. 20 mins.?

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Wed, 03-31-2010 - 6:56pm
Am I a good communicator? I think so, but maybe not since I am always learning new things that it seems I should have known a long time ago.
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Thu, 04-01-2010 - 6:35am

1) Some, not all; and can't remember the last time I did.

2) Yes, and no it's not always frustrating because much of it's not really concious specific thought, a lot of it is just part of the stream of conciousness... and we're used to it day-in and day-out so we hardly pay it any attention for the most part.

3) Yes, I do. I quite often think of DW when I masturbate. That particular little fantasy involves lingerie.

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Thu, 04-01-2010 - 8:07am
Is it a specific kind of lingerie you like or action with it? Why do you like it? (apologies if that's
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Thu, 04-01-2010 - 3:56pm

1) For high libido men: he's jacked off thinking about at least one of your friends and maybe all of them. For low libido men: probably none.


2) For high libido men: he thinks about sex between once every 30 minutes

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Thu, 04-01-2010 - 4:14pm

As a woman, how often I think about sex depends on my mood. I'm not "HL" or "LL", I go back and forth between the two. Of course it also depends on what's in front of me.


Also in my fantasies I don't usually think about any particular man. It's more the act, me and a man, and it is not clear nor does it matter who the man is if that makes any sense.

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Thu, 04-01-2010 - 7:40pm
Is it a specific kind of lingerie you like or action with it?

I mentioned this on the boards before, but I like a woman in lingerie - usually French or Italian, gaterbelt, stockings etc. Is it a specific kind of lingerie you like or action with it?

The action with it? Hmmmm. Nothing specific, I couldn't say what it is that lingerie does for me that normal naked doesn't. Just visually sexier I guess. The sensation of legs encased in stockings is arousing but it's not like a fetish or anything for me.

Where or what made me like it? Again, I couldn't point to any one thing - I suspect that my Dad's stack of Playboys and Penthouses had something to do with it though. Playboy has always been big on women in lingerie and that's probably where I first got started.
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Fri, 04-02-2010 - 12:54pm

For a

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Fri, 04-02-2010 - 5:38pm

1) That most likely our husbands have jacked off thinking about ALL of our good-looking female friends and relatives?-Relatives? No.....friends...maybe depends on how familiar we are with the friend (imho) I don't think this one happens as often as you might think. (I could be wrong, I am only one guy)

2) That you all think about sex every twenty minutes or so? If so, is it frustrating or pleasant? Thanks.-As someone has already pointed out, it kind of flows in our stream of consciousness. When you are younger, you pay attention, but as you get older, you know it's there and you don't give it much thought. Certain things can set it off though. For instance, I smell a perfume on a woman that turns me on, I'll think about sex for a minute or if I see a nice looking dress on a chick, I'll think about it.

It can be a plesant feeling, or it can be frustrating. Depends on the situation....

3) You guys don't really think about your wives when you masturbate, ever, do you? I mean, why would you when she's the familiar one you can have in real life?-I do. But I am a HL in a marriage with a LL, so we have little to no sex anymore, so yeah I do think about her when I do it. But because of the frustration IRL, I also think about other women when I do it as well.

FG




Edited 4/2/2010 5:38 pm ET by frustrated_guy