see b/f only twice/wk at most

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see b/f only twice/wk at most
Mon, 08-09-2010 - 3:10am
I have been dating my b/f for 2 years now.
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Mon, 08-09-2010 - 5:50am

Tina, this post is a complete contradiction of what you've written on another board.

Here you say that you've asked to see him more often and he won't change. You also say that "Once or twice a week I think is pathetic..maybe it's a clue into how much he really wants to be with me in life in general?"

But on this thread you complain because he wants you to move in with him and will break up with you if you don't.

I'm not sure what you're trying to achieve by telling contradicting stories.

Edited 8/9/2010 6:08 am ET by
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Mon, 08-09-2010 - 6:31am



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Registered: 08-31-2009
Tue, 08-10-2010 - 3:16pm
I only see my bf a couple times a week. Granted, we've only been dating for a little over 2 months. The reason we don't see each other more often is because I work overnights and he works during the day or evening. That, and he lives about 30 minutes away. I am, however, trying to get a different job so I have more evenings free to see him (and to better my social life in general). It sounds, though, like there are more serious issues going on here than how often you see one another.
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Thu, 08-12-2010 - 2:21pm
I assume you a grown. I also assume that there might be more ambition that to "have a boyfriend". Financially don't move in and put you hard earned money to work for you and to move up into better paying positions. There are always men but there will never be another time when you will be free do chart your own course. Emotion right now is clouding the practical issues.
You don't like the neighborhood. It's his house. You would be doing the sacrifice. What about your career and financial ambitions?
Retirement (2 million needed) These are things that even ten years ago were non issues but are today.
His financial problem do not have to become yours. A relationship is much easier with money than with out.

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Registered: 05-18-2009
Mon, 08-16-2010 - 2:43pm

My boyfriend and I, together now almost six years, only saw one another twice a week when we lived an hour apart. That was the first six months of our relationship. When I moved 15 minutes away from him, we saw one another almost every day. We just wanted to, so we did. We've been living together for 3 years now and still enjoy seeing one another every day.

I'd be put off by a guy who, after 2 years together, would rather sleep and make excuses than see one another. My guess is that he doesn't really love your company. I wonder why you are staying with a guy who makes you feel lonely, compounded with other issues that seem to be serious. Isn't the point of a relationship to feel closeness? Why do you stay?

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Registered: 11-05-2009
Mon, 08-16-2010 - 4:19pm
We are not together anymore-it was a slow breakup that took about a month to complete.