Tina, this post is a complete contradiction of what you've written on another board.
Here you say that you've asked to see him more often and he won't change. You also say that "Once or twice a week I think is pathetic..maybe it's a clue into how much he really wants to be with me in life in general?"
But on this thread http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlbreaking&msg=27944.1&ctx=128 you complain because he wants you to move in with him and will break up with you if you don't.
I'm not sure what you're trying to achieve by telling contradicting stories.
My boyfriend and I, together now almost six years, only saw one another twice a week when we lived an hour apart. That was the first six months of our relationship. When I moved 15 minutes away from him, we saw one another almost every day. We just wanted to, so we did. We've been living together for 3 years now and still enjoy seeing one another every day.
I'd be put off by a guy who, after 2 years together, would rather sleep and make excuses than see one another. My guess is that he doesn't really love your company. I wonder why you are staying with a guy who makes you feel lonely, compounded with other issues that seem to be serious. Isn't the point of a relationship to feel closeness? Why do you stay?