Should I call???

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-15-2006
Should I call???
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Sat, 01-22-2011 - 5:19pm

So there was this guy from my office building, who's 7 years younger than me. I am 33, he's 26.

Initially I didn;t notice him, then he started flirting with me, seemed interested

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Registered: 05-18-2009
Sat, 01-22-2011 - 11:16pm

"he had 'falled asleep'"

You sure this guy is 26 and not... three?

JK :P

Anyway, no, I do not think you should call. There is never an explanation that makes any difference beyond "if he really wanted you, things would be different". He isn't that into you. Initiating contact with someone who can't be bothered will make you look and feel like a fool. There are lots of phone calls I wish I could take back! You could be right about his ex, that he had a good time on the date but isn't really interested in pursuing one woman for a relationship right now. Any way you slice it, if he were "that into you", he would show you. He wouldn't be making excuses and hiding from you.

You should move on.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-15-2006
Sun, 01-23-2011 - 12:51pm
Thanks....I just needed that second opinion....I really appreciated it
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-25-2007
Wed, 01-26-2011 - 12:57pm

hi in my opinion i would step back and give him some time. it seems as though hes been nice enough to give you a response about why he's seemed to disappear a couple of times.

however, it would be best to step back a bit and give him time to think.

remember it seems like you are only dating the guy....which means you should be seeing others and so should he.

you do not need a proper explanation and he does not owe you won.....unless he used the word promise or something to that effect in your conversation.

BOL!

keep us posted

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-25-2007
Wed, 01-26-2011 - 12:59pm
meant to use the word ONE in that last paragraph lol
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Registered: 11-06-2008
Wed, 01-26-2011 - 11:37pm

dont call.....if he wants to talk he will call.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-15-2006
Fri, 01-28-2011 - 9:52am
Hi

So I saw him at work and we were able to talk.

He said that he started to doubt whether I really liked him, thought I was real accomplished and would want a guy that was 'better' than him.

That really surprised me though but I am thinking it also has to do with his ex dumping him for a guy that made more money.

He also admitted that he felt he was vulnerable to getting hurt.

So I guess I'll definitely not try to pressure him and see how it goes!
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-25-2007
Fri, 01-28-2011 - 5:37pm

glad to hear that....

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-21-2007
Tue, 02-01-2011 - 12:03pm

'..I suspect he hasn't gotten over his ex, as he mentioned

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-15-2011
Sun, 05-15-2011 - 10:33pm
what ever became of the situation?