Should I feel guilty here?

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Registered: 11-01-2007
Should I feel guilty here?
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Thu, 09-23-2010 - 9:30am

My ex emailed me twice after us not speaking for 6 months. I had changed my phone #, he left 2 notes for me on my porch, i ignored. He was a jerk. Basically used me for sex when he felt like it, broke plans with me, admitted that he slept with other people (even though he claims we werent talking) I couldnt take it anymore. It was difficult but i ended things. On monday (after the 6 months of no contact), he emailed me again telling me he thinks of me often, has tried to let me go but cant, i must mean something special to him, feels humility and knows he wasnt always nice to me. We talked back and forth a bit, i didnt say much, then agreed to talk to him. Things did not go as they should have. Originally we were goign to go out wednesday, but he came over Tuesday at 10pm.

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Registered: 05-04-2007
Thu, 09-23-2010 - 10:11am

Guilt is a useless emotion. Don't hang onto it, there's nothing to do about it

Good distraction frees us from emotional pain, bad distraction gives you a mouth full of whizz. ~~~ Guru Tugginmypudha
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Thu, 09-23-2010 - 10:40am
Yeah
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Registered: 05-04-2007
Thu, 09-23-2010 - 11:12am

I had my suspicians that he was lonely, hadnt met anyone else, etc.



Good distraction frees us from emotional pain, bad distraction gives you a mouth full of whizz. ~~~ Guru Tugginmypudha
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Registered: 11-01-2007
Thu, 09-23-2010 - 11:40am
i really and truly dont know. We have great chemistry...i missed that. But I hated the way i felt yesterday and that's often how i felt with him.
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Registered: 05-04-2007
Thu, 09-23-2010 - 1:19pm

i really and truly dont know.



Do you just go along with a lot of things?



Good distraction frees us from emotional pain, bad distraction gives you a mouth full of whizz. ~~~ Guru Tugginmypudha
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Registered: 11-01-2007
Thu, 09-23-2010 - 1:55pm

Thanks. I guess I really didnt think things through well enough before i responded to him. Then the next thing i knew i was making plans with him, then he was coming over my house, then it went back to how it was and i was sitting around waiting to hear from him. I was angry to be in that spot again. Still angry at him for the ways he treated me in the past...but yet i want(ed) so much for us to just work out. I'll never get why we it didnt. I truly thought he'd at least answer my texts when i questioned his sincerity. Instead he just seemed irritated



If a man wants to be with a woman nothing will stop him. This guy stops himself from being with me all the time. I dont think me sending angry texts was THAT bad. Perhaps it was a reminder to him that we dont get along...but I dont think i did anything that crazy. I still feel so much hurt about how he behaved towards me. Maybe i was hoping that by talking to him again the hurt would go away.



At this point there's not much i can do other than move on again. It's been so difficult to get over this guy.

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Registered: 12-27-2004
Thu, 09-23-2010 - 3:12pm

Runup78, I don't think this man respects you at all.

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Registered: 01-28-2005
Thu, 09-23-2010 - 5:22pm

Exactly! Some people get high on being able to mess with other people's heads.

OP: He doesn't want you. He doesn't want to be with you. Imagine how mighty powerful he feels now. "I didn't talk to this chick for 6 months, and all I had to do is tell her I want her back and she is all crazy about me again." I've been there before (it sux).

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Registered: 09-06-2010
Thu, 09-23-2010 - 5:25pm

>>>If he'd been serious about working on things he'd have shown up at my house with flowers...<<<



And then he would be a jack-ass with flowers.






Edited 10/2/2010 10:25 pm ET by darling.carly
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Registered: 05-18-2009
Thu, 09-23-2010 - 5:29pm
LOL I'm sorry for laughing... But this is so true.

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