Should I tell her shes being cheated on?

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Should I tell her shes being cheated on?
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Mon, 04-19-2010 - 4:15am

I have suspected for a few years that a woman who her Husband works with my wife/x-wife (we are raising our kids together in the same home), is cheating on her. He has managed to keep this secret for so long.


As a man, I know it's normal for the eye to stray and I wasn't the perfect husband, but I have never been with any woman except my wife, even after our divorce.


I just think she needs to know that he is hurting her. I believe that if you are unhappy, move on. I initially asked for my divorce, then asked her to take me back, but she waited until the last moment to file the papers, almost 1 year.


We are better friends.


I don't know if I should tell her. I have only met her twice and I don't know how she will react.

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Registered: 04-10-2010
Mon, 04-19-2010 - 5:22am

Nope, unless it's a good friend or relative I'm staying out of it. Just my opinion.

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Mon, 04-19-2010 - 5:54am

Stay out of it!

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Mon, 04-19-2010 - 9:04am
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Mon, 04-19-2010 - 9:44am

Well, this is interesting!

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Mon, 04-19-2010 - 9:48am

What's your real story?

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Mon, 04-19-2010 - 10:49am

I thought I was logged off last night when my X came in our home office to do some work. I came upstairs with my laptop. He knows I've been having an A and with whom. he has always been concerned about this woman who a co-worker talks about, the co-worker is my brother-in-law. He saw them leave the office together and turn into a motel 6 parking lot.


I don't know if my X has a key logger, or just has his own account here.


He just told me to check my e-mails and left for work. He must know. If he is willing to go out of his way to point out an affair, what will he do to my AP????


I have already warned him. I hope things go well.

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Mon, 04-19-2010 - 10:52am
lol... Obviously some posters don't realize that some of us bounce around. I can't wait to



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Registered: 08-01-2006
Mon, 04-19-2010 - 10:57am
Regardless..... It's none of anyones business but the people involved. Keep out of it.


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Mon, 04-19-2010 - 12:08pm

So your X posted under your name, whatever.

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Mon, 04-19-2010 - 1:49pm

My Brother in law just married into the family and has apparrantly been seeing this woman for a couple years.


I'm actually having an A with my business partner. I do work for his wife. I spoke with my X and he told me he had his suspicions. I don't see my sister and brother in law often. I spend all my time with my kids and my AP.


Now that my X knows, I am relieved, but I didn't know until this morning that the cheating co-worker was my brother in law. My X was always jealous of my business partner b/c he has always been there for me. I almost died in an accident right in front of him. I got to keep my legs and I walk with a brace, it is for the rest of my life. My X told me before my back surgery 4 years ago that he wanted a divorce. I met my AP 8 months later online. We just clicked. My accident was in 08 and my X moved back in to care for the childern and realized he didn't want to be without them We agreed to live in seperate rooms, we have a 5 bedroom house. We will raise our children, then move out. He is free to date, but doesn't have the self esteem.


He also doesn't like my brother in law. That makes sense that he would want to cause trouble in my sister's marriage. I didn't even grow up with her, we came from a split family.


I'm not tellling my sister. I think my road in life is where I need to focus my energy. I just can't believe I was so careless about not logging off. He said he will not tell my AP's wife, as he has never met her and isn't the outgoing type.

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