Signs He's Not Over His Ex?

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Registered: 06-08-2011
Signs He's Not Over His Ex?
Tue, 05-21-2013 - 9:57pm

I have been dating a guy for about two months.  This guy has only been divorced for about 9 months and I TOLD him, when we first started dating, that this concerned me because I believe that it takes at least two years (give or take a little) to get your ducks back in a row after a divorce.  He assured me he's over his ex.  This guy's ex cheated on him and within the past month so she married the guy with whom she had an affair.  I didn't find this out from HIM but through a mutual friend.

The problem is, is that this guy I'm dating is still close to his ex in-laws and ex brother-in-law.  His family hangs out with his ex's family.  Since we've been dating I know that he loaned his ex brother-in-law a truck until he bought one of his own.  He meets his ex brother-in-law for drinks after work.  He has taken calls from the ex brother-in-law while we were out of town on a weekend trip.  He has contacted his ex in-laws, IN FRONT OF ME DURING A DATE, to see if they are ok due to severe weather.

Although I appreciate how caring this guy really is.....I just can't help but feel awkward and see this as a RED FLAG that he's not ready and just using me as filler.  What do I do?  Do I say something?  Do I just let it go because we don't have a big commitment?  Do I just blow it off?

Any help would be appreciated!!!