Similar question as Eagle2001

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Registered: 11-28-2008
Similar question as Eagle2001
Fri, 02-12-2010 - 11:51am

I am in a relationship with a wonderful man and have been for 7 months. No, it's not very long. I am in this for the long haul. He is 35 and I am 44. He is the child of divorce and his stepfather beat him badly as a child. He is also an alcoholic but has been clean and sober for 7 years. I wanted to put these things out there hoping maybe it may help with the advice I'm seeking.

As Eagle posted earlier, my man shows zero passion..but the bigger problem is he shows zero affection period

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Registered: 11-29-2006
Fri, 02-12-2010 - 12:10pm
Hi vickie, you might get better responses if you try reposting this on one of our sex-related forums, such as Make Him Moan or Mismatched Libidos. There's a full listing available here.


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Registered: 08-01-2006
Fri, 02-12-2010 - 1:21pm

Have you tried sitting him down, outside the bedroom, and telling him what you need? Make sure you use "I" statements, I need, I want, etc.

Also, look at this site, It would be good if you could get him to look at it also.


I used to believe in forever,
but forever was too good to be true.
Winnie the Pooh

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Registered: 11-28-2008
Fri, 02-12-2010 - 1:48pm

I guess I thought my post could go here as to the great answers given to Eagle by some of the male posters. Thanks.

Yes I tried once to talk to him and he said he would try and he just wasn't used to being that way.

I reposted under mismatched libidos so thanks again.

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Registered: 04-12-2004
Sun, 02-14-2010 - 10:02am

I would try giving him some gentle instruction.