So Confused...

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Registered: 12-31-1969
So Confused...
Sat, 09-22-2012 - 12:26pm

So I have been seeing this guy for quite some time now.  We work together and have had our differences about if we should bring our relationship out to everyone there or keep it private.  We have decided to keep it private as there was a situation a few months back where rumors started flying about us and his boss was very hard on him.  Anyways, during that time (which was a total of 6 weeks) we decided that we needed to step back and let things calm down, which sucked but I reallly understood.  So in the past week something happened at work and he was upset and I knew it but we went out Thursday after his softball game had a couple drinks and after leaving I called and talked to him and somehow he told me that he needed space.  He clarified that it had nothing to do with us and just the work thing.  Now yesterday I really tried respecting what he asked Thursday night and just text him later on in the day to ask him a question and he's been talking back and forth and asked me to come out to spend time with him with some of his friends.  I'm not complaining at all but I just don't understand I guess how one day you can say that we need a break and he needs space and the next day he's asking me to come out with him.  Help!

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Sat, 09-22-2012 - 5:36pm


Welcome to the board.

   This is tricky.   Is there a rule about dating co-workers?  If so he is probably conflicted.  Let's face it; at this time it would be difficult to get another job if the boss fires him.  So he may want to put this on the down low.