so hurt

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Registered: 03-21-2010
so hurt
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Fri, 03-26-2010 - 10:21am

I've just finished a relationship of a year with a man that supposedly loved me.

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Registered: 01-02-2010
In reply to: tryingtolearn2010
Fri, 03-26-2010 - 11:41am
I understand. It sounds like it all happened so fast, reality hasn't quite sunk in yet. Also it sounds like he is pretty manipulative. He's mad at you, give me a break! My feeling is your instincts took over and handled everything exactly the way it was supposed
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In reply to: tryingtolearn2010
Fri, 03-26-2010 - 12:28pm

Thanks for your reply.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: tryingtolearn2010
Fri, 03-26-2010 - 9:16pm

Just be aware that you may never get your cordial ending, and don't let it stop you from moving on if that turns out to be the case.

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Registered: 01-02-2010
In reply to: tryingtolearn2010
Sat, 03-27-2010 - 2:38am
I agree. If OP can deal with it, best to consider that the ending has already been had.
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Registered: 10-18-2001
In reply to: tryingtolearn2010
Sat, 03-27-2010 - 6:59pm

I agree with the last two posts - you've had your ending. There is no benefit to trying to resolve anything more with him. You'll be lucky to get "cordial" and frankly you've had your closure - what more do you want? It ends like this - you catch him out in a big lie and he doesn't want to speak to you again. How much more "finished" do you want or need?

Have any more contact with him and you are in "pathetic" territory. One day you will look back and you will KICK yourself for being so namby-pamby and pathetic over this guy and your role in this ending.

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Registered: 06-22-2006
In reply to: tryingtolearn2010
Mon, 03-29-2010 - 3:55pm

I think the others are spot-on right and that your time would be better spent with some guided help as to why you "need" to end anything with a douchebag like this on a "cordial note."

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In reply to: tryingtolearn2010
Tue, 03-30-2010 - 7:43am
Hi. You've gotten some great advice. As for the emailing him again for some "closure", please don't do that. He may take that as an invitation to try and get back with you. I know how hard it is to move on, but it's the best thing you can do. Avoid all contact from now on. It will hurt but you will get over it.

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