So what does "engaged" mean?
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|Sat, 04-12-2003 - 9:56pm|
"Have a 17yo son and a wonderful fiance (4 yrs engaged - can't seem to convince him to take the walk down that aisle)"
Now...I don't mean to pick on Msfit...I swear. Before I read this I have often wondered this question when women have posted on this board.
What exactly consitutes an engagement?
To me...unless you have a date set for a wedding that is being planned, you aren't engaged. Now, yes...if it is now Spring 2003, you do get to call yourself "engaged" in my book and get away with "Spring 2004" for awhile. But by time December 2003 gets around, if you are still saying "Spring 2004", you ain't engaged...all IMHO.
So...I am just wondering...if a person doesn't have plans to marry (plans = date...plan = planning taking place at minimum), then how do you get to be engaged?
Does it simply mean you have a ring...thus you are engaged? I think that is indeed how most people view it...they don't think of it as "engaged to be married"...they simply think of it as another level of relationship. You know...there is "seeing someone"...which upgrades to "dating someone"...followed by "exclusinely dating", which graduates to "a serious relationship"...then "a serious LONG TERM relationship", which I guess is followed by either "engaged" if you believe in marriage (whether you're getting married or not), or "partner" if you don't (or know you ain't gonna be getting married, whether you believe in it or not).
Again, Msfit, I swear ain't hatin' on you. But I just had to put it out there...how can you be "engaged" to someone for four years? Or are you and "DH" actually married now, and you never changed your profile?
Edited 4/12/2003 10:04:12 PM ET by gogobear