Steamy crush, whats going on here?

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Registered: 04-23-2005
Steamy crush, whats going on here?
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Tue, 08-17-2010 - 2:41am

Thanks for opening my post, i'll do my best to explain my situation. Just would be nice to talk to about it and see what others would think :)

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Registered: 04-10-2010
Tue, 08-17-2010 - 5:09am

So,

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Registered: 09-23-2009
Tue, 08-17-2010 - 7:48am

I agree with the previous poster. If you have sex with him, the whole office will probably find out about it. I believe that it could hurt you professionally. Whenever possible, it's usually a good idea not to date a co-worker. More new relationships fail rather than succeed , and then you have to see this person at work everday, which is very uncomfortable. If he's your boss, the bad feelings that may come when things don't work out could wind up with you being fired or re-located. It's also not a good idea to let co-workers see you drunk. Try to keep your professional life separate from your social life.


Who cares what he wants from you or what he's thinking? You need to think about what you want in a relationship. He sounds mentally unstable to me, and to have sex as a goal without a commitment. Unless you want a fwb, and to have everyone at work gossiping about you two, then you need

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Registered: 04-23-2005
Tue, 08-17-2010 - 9:45am
Thank you both for your responses.
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Registered: 05-18-2009
Tue, 08-17-2010 - 9:49am

Whoa. I'm kind of amazed you're even deliberating over this guy. You're really throwing a lot out the window in order to nurse something as simple as a crush. Take a big step back from this situation and look at it objectively. What's the most you're hoping for? How far can this crush really go? Are you setting yourself up for an inevitable heartbreak?

Crushes sometimes lead us into an Instant Gratification mindset where all we want to do is indulge in our feelings without really thinking of the long-term effects.