still in the dark

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Registered: 11-07-2009
still in the dark
Tue, 04-06-2010 - 7:55am

I told a male friend that I have feelings for him and about 6 weeks ago I called him to ask him to lunch.

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Registered: 10-29-2006
Tue, 04-06-2010 - 8:25am

"Is he telling me without words but with action (no response and no calls) that he is not interested?"


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Registered: 08-11-2004
Tue, 04-06-2010 - 8:37am
Not only does he not seem interested, he also doesn't seem like he's really a friend either. You probably shouldn't contact him again, otherwise you risk seeming desperate. If you do happen to run into him, don't ever mention having feelings again.
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Registered: 05-18-2009
Tue, 04-06-2010 - 9:13am

He's not taking the bait because he's not interested.

I don't agree that he's indicating he's not really a friend, it's really awkward when a friend expresses an interest in you that you don't share. There's no really good response.

He's trying to give you the hint but you're not taking it. I think it's time to stop contacting him and just let this crush go. Sorry!!

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Registered: 08-01-2006
Tue, 04-06-2010 - 10:42am
Sorry to burst your bubble, but there is nothing to positively be thinking about. He has told you without the actual words that he's not interested in you that way. Leave it alone, do not contact him.

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Registered: 03-08-2004
Tue, 04-06-2010 - 10:55am

As the other posters have said, he's not interested.

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Registered: 09-22-2009
Thu, 04-08-2010 - 10:24am
Yep, that's it. Let it go.